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More Women Should Choose a Home Over a Baby

Amanda Oliver | Posted 07.01.2015 | Women
Amanda Oliver

Sitting down and actually planning out whether you can afford to have a child should be a priority for every family. As much as we all work to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps, it also helps to be born into a family that is financially, and emotionally, prepared to handle parenting.

270 Reasons Women Choose Not To Have Children

Posted 07.01.2015 | Women

Far too often, women who choose to be childfree are asked to defend their “immature,” “selfish” lifestyles. They’re told that motherhood is ...

Why the Moms Who Love Aunties Are Amazing, too

Melanie Notkin | Posted 06.15.2015 | Women
Melanie Notkin

And as far as the love we give to your kids goes, well, that comes naturally to us. Babies are born from the womb, but maternity comes from the soul. There are many way to be maternal. Thank you for giving us a deeply meaningful way to exercise our maternal muscle.

I Was A Proud Non-Breeder. Then I Changed My Mind.

The Cut | Posted 05.27.2015 | Women
The Cut

It occurred to me, as it probably should have occurred to me earlier, that being scared of loss is not a good reason to have a baby.

7 Things Women Without Children Want Moms To Know

Hélène Tragos Stelian | Posted 05.23.2015 | Fifty
Hélène Tragos Stelian

I had lunch recently with a new friend. In the midst of our 'getting to know you' questions, I asked if she had kids. She responded 'no.' The moment was uncomfortable. I felt awkward for asking. We moved on to another topic. This discomfort stayed with me.

I'm a Mom, But I Prefer My Child-Free Friends

Danielle Campoamor | Posted 05.15.2015 | Parents
Danielle Campoamor

I get to experience child-free fun vicariously through them and they get a taste of motherhood while simultaneously remembering to take their birth control.

No Kids By Choice: Tracking the Evolution of Social Change

Laura Carroll | Posted 05.12.2015 | Women
Laura Carroll

In the last 15 years, we have seen a number of media waves on this topic. In the big picture, we've seen an ascent of talk about this in the public sphere since the 70s. That's over four decades. Where are we after 40+ years of talking about the childfree choice? Let's start with a quick broad stroke look back in time.

10 Things Childfree Women Want Their Friends To Know

Bethany Ramos | Posted 05.11.2015 | Women
Bethany Ramos

I'll admit it. Now that I have kids and am knee-deep in parenting, I forget that not everybody cares about my kids as much as I do. Not everybody wants kids, and that is a perfectly valid decision. For those of us who have forgotten how the other side lives, childfree Redditors have some important insight to share.

A Record Percentage Of Women Don't Have Kids. Here's Why That Makes Sense.

The Huffington Post | Emma Gray | Posted 04.09.2015 | Women

Women without children are not anomalies, the latest census data shows. According to the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey, in 2014,...

I Never Wanted Kids -- Until I Did

xoJANE | Posted 05.18.2015 | Women
xoJANE

Ten years after I made my initial no-babies-ever-under-any-circumstances declaration, I'm perusing baby name books and painting my guest bedroom a shade of pastel periwinkle.

I Don't Want Children -- Ever

Jessica Burnell | Posted 05.03.2015 | Women
Jessica Burnell

It's not that I don't want children right now. It's not that I don't want children until after I'm married, or after I've paid off my student loan debt, or after I've bought a house. There is no caveat to this statement. I do not want children ever.

What Is Active Acceptance?

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 04.25.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I actively work my acceptance of my life without kids, but do not be confused by the word acceptance. Definitely do not miss the words actively work.

Where Do I Belong?

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 04.19.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

It is now, as a 35-year-old woman without children, where I'm struggling, thankfully, for the first time in my life, with the sense of not belonging. I have learned there are two major things no one tells you when you begin the journey of IVF.

From A Childfree Woman To All The Parents Out There

Sabrina Hoffmann | Posted 04.08.2015 | Women
Sabrina Hoffmann

Only you know what it really means to be parents. But perhaps this will show you that while people like me might be childless, we are not heartless.

Making Room for the Light

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 04.04.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

It's sad IVF didn't work for us. It's sad we lost our three babies. It's sad we lost those three dreams. Giving myself permission to continue to feel that sadness, as needed, will help to stave off that anger that seems to set me back so much every time.

It's Always Been for You: An Ever Upward Circle Back

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 03.25.2015 | Books
Justine Brooks Froelker

This book is for everyone who is struggling. This book is for everyone who needs a good story to show them some ways out and that it is possible. That we all have the power to change our lives; the power to define our own happy ending.

Our Fellow Warriors, True Friends, Limited Supporters and Incapables

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 03.15.2015 | Women
Justine Brooks Froelker

Being completely understood by others needs to have nothing to do with who we are or our stories. We must honor ourselves, no matter what our loved ones' capabilities of understanding us are.

Making It Well With My Soul

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 03.07.2015 | Religion
Justine Brooks Froelker

So many of us are struggling to not only do the work to survive this life but to embrace that these struggles, losses and hurts can, will and must become well with our soul. But, we cannot do this alone. I'd even argue to say that we cannot do this with only our faith either.

My Ever Upward Mothering

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 03.02.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I mothered. I mothered not my own children, but I mothered nonetheless. I mothered in a way that I am accepting and embracing, but also defining for myself.

A Convoluted Christmas

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 03.01.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I feel the freedom and less stress, perhaps, without children of my own at Christmastime. And yet, I feel so sad and maybe even a little empty without them.

Forever Changed, Never Fixed

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 02.22.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Survivors of infertility know how quickly your joyful high can be crushed by the breath-stealing loss of heartbreak.

I Was Ambivalent About Having Kids -- Until I Wasn't

Dana Norris | Posted 02.19.2015 | Women
Dana Norris

I find it hard to believe at first because I don't feel any different. But then days go by and I begin to feel a buzz around my edges. I realize that I, through no conscious effort of my own, am slowly building another person. My husband and I compare bellies in the mirror every night. I didn't think it was possible, but I enjoy being pregnant.

The Semantics

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 02.18.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I chose the term childfree over childless for the subtitle because I am not less of anything. I am not missing anything. I am not less of a woman because I cannot be a mother in the traditional sense.

If People Who Don't Want Children Said What They're Actually Thinking

The Huffington Post | Alanna Vagianos | Posted 12.17.2014 | Women

"Wait.. you meant to get pregnant?" A new video produced by Buzzfeed illustrates how annoying (and hilarious) life can be for people who don't want...

I'm 40 And I Don't Want to Be A Mom. Now What?

The Cut | Posted 02.14.2015 | Women
The Cut

I knew I did not want this motherhood thing, an idea I had, without much thought, signed off on early on as being something I should want. If fate knocked me up, I'd be okay. But if it didn't, that was pretty great also. Maybe greater.