New memories will take the place of old ones and the old ones will tend to fade. So writing has become very important for me. If it's all written down somewhere with all the nitty-gritty details, I know I can read it for years to come and know that her memories are intact.
You see, I am one of those parents who has sat in that room and participated as these raw emotions have flown like water over Niagara Falls. My amazing daughter Alexis was taken from me two weeks shy of her fifth birthday by an indiscriminate killer called brain cancer.
Those of us who grieve deeply never get over it. We live our lives with it, we manage it. But during certain times of the year, the management is much harder. And the grief will swallow us if we're not careful.
I can honestly say I did not plan any of what happened next. It just happened. Rather than break the news to my three young children that we would be heading back to the hospital for another battle, the only words I could form were, "Let's start Christmas right now."
I admit it. I am a huge fan of the animated show Family Guy. The Griffin family has provided me with much distraction at some of the most stressful points of my daughter Alexis' cancer journey and beyond.
By definition, to slay is to destroy or extinguish, but in the case of 15-year-old Jordan Vincent, the moniker she has been given, "the cancer slayer," is much more heroic than the distinction conveys.
The difference between this love story and all the rest? The girl is singer/songwriter phenomenon Taylor Swift, and the blue-eyed object of her affection is Ronan Thompson, who passed away in May of 2011 after battling Stage 4 Neuroblastoma cancer.
Camp Sunshine opened new vistas for Katherine. Having been very introverted from years of being bald and laughed at by other children, she now found herself in an environment where everyone was in the same boat. She and 36 other special children blossomed like they had never had before.
You all remember that little government shutdown a handful of weeks back don't you? Doctors in lab coats stood behind members of Congress as we all worried about children currently battling cancer and those newly diagnosed.
We can learn that helplessness isn't inherently a trauma. We are each born into it, and someday each will return to it, but it's a natural state of living and being alive. Do we approach helplessness as the infant?
I'm not here to tell you about a miracle that saved my daughter's life; instead of I'm here to tell you about the miracle that was her life, and how her 8 ½ years of life have left an enduring impact on the lives of other children battling cancers.
It's mean-spirited to blame Romijn (or Christina Applegate or Melissa Etheridge) for choosing breast cancer as their cause. But as the parent of a child who lost her life to a pediatric brain tumor, I wish just one of these celebs would lend their wow factor to childhood cancer.