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Our Infertility Rap Sheets

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 01.24.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

As men and women suffering through infertility treatments we are identifying ourselves, sometimes completely, through how many treatments we have endured. We are so much more than this.

Baby: Yes, No, Maybe?

Wilamina Falkenhagen | Posted 01.20.2015 | Women
Wilamina Falkenhagen

Thirty, engaged, house, dog, plans for a baby -- isn't that the dream? Wasn't I living the life most young women are searching for? Maybe not.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 3

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 01.10.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When it comes to family planning, fertility, infertility, miscarriage, infant loss and recovery, there really can't be too much love.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 2

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 01.05.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When we practice empathy we connect. When we receive empathy we feel seen, known and loved. In other words, we all feel not so alone in this huge, hard world.

No Really, I Never Want To Have Kids

Literally, Darling | Posted 01.06.2015 | Women
Literally, Darling

I am 24 years old and I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that I don't want to have children. Ever.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 1

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 01.05.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Practicing empathy means being willing to sit with someone in their discomfort. It means being willing to just be with someone, maybe not saying a single word or simply saying, that is so hard, that sucks, I can't imagine, ugh.

The Often Silenced, and Left Out, Parts of Our Infertility Stories

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 01.03.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must continue to break this silence. It is only through talking about our stories that we will be able to embrace it all. Through this embracing we will be able to practice our recovery no matter what our version of the happy ending is.

Conceiving Our Chosen Family

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.28.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Never could I have imagined I would find myself, my home and my destined chosen family all from a woman I met online.

It Happened to Me: Infertility Treatments Didn't Work and I Defined My Own Motherhood

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.27.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must give ourselves permission to make our own family, however that may look. And, as a society we must all have more fertility compassion for whatever those means are.

Childless by Choice - Gas Station Condoms and Rumors of Infertility

Kevin B. Morrow | Posted 12.26.2014 | Fifty
Kevin B. Morrow

Children can't be let out in the yard to play until you get up at 1:30 p.m. on Sunday because you were out late the night before. Dogs can. Cats don't even need to be let out, you can ignore them.

Why Turning 31 Is More Meaningful Than I Thought

Kaneisha Grayson | Posted 12.23.2014 | Women
Kaneisha Grayson

In my 30s, it's no longer a question of when my masterminded plans will pan out -- but whether I actually want the things I penned into my five-year plans, and if so, what I'm willing to give up to get them.

Taking Off the Armor of My 'Choice'

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.22.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I fought really hard to be a mother. I paid lots of money to be a mother. I endured painful tests and procedures to be a mother. I put my body and my surrogate's through synthetic hormonal hell to be a mother. I put my faith and trust in many doctors and other humans to be a mother.

Our Scarred Imperfections

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.21.2014 | Women
Justine Brooks Froelker

We will suffer losses, traumas and tragedies in this life. When we lose one dream we must pick up the pieces and redefine. To wallow in the lost only defines us. To stay stuck on the never to be's only keeps us stagnant in life. To make our scarred imperfections our entire story misplaces them completely.

The Most Ironic Story of Ever Upward

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.21.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

FULL CIRCLE It was a full circle weekend for me returning to the Emerging Women conference, this year in New York City. Last year I attended EW as a ...

An Imposter and Fraud or a Forever Grieving and Healing Mother?

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.20.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

They turned up the lights after one song. We usually sing four amazing rock band-like songs, which is one of the many reasons I love our church. The...

Caution, No Kids Wanted

Rachel Bass | Posted 12.17.2014 | Women
Rachel Bass

I mean, I know this date is fun, and I'm cute and bubbly, but let's not pretend that we have a future together. I don't need the heartbreak in two years from now when we wake up and you're leaving me because you want to play catch with your future son.

I'm Single. And I'm Sitting at Home On a Sunday. And You're in the Park With Your Kid.

Elizabeth Barnett | Posted 12.09.2014 | Women
Elizabeth Barnett

I'm writing this post to ask that if you have a family, you take a moment to recognize that they are a blessing. The moments you are having with your husband and your kids should be treasured, even the moments where things aren't working out the way you had hoped.

Why Is Being Childless By Choice Still An Issue?

Dani Alpert | Posted 12.01.2014 | Women
Dani Alpert

Can we all move on from this topic and come together on the issues that truly matter and impact all of our lives; the Middle East conflict, world hunger and George Clooney's wedding? Thank you

An Open Letter to My Friends Who Don't Have Kids

Janie Porter | Posted 11.19.2014 | Parents
Janie Porter

Here's the ugly truth: We suck at doing it all. The moment the doctor handed me my crying newborn, it all stopped. I was not just Janie. I was Janie, the Mother of Sullivan. I became a mom, and for a time, I didn't care about anything else but my kid.

4 Shades of Childless Women, Part II

Marcy Cole, Ph.D. | Posted 11.05.2014 | Women
Marcy Cole, Ph.D.

Choose to be mindful, conscious and attentive about one of your life's most important decisions. Tune in to both sides of your inner dialogue. Bust through the beliefs based on distortion, fear and limitation. Clarity will emerge... just stick with it.

Aisha Tyler: It's OK To Choose Career Over Kids

HuffPost Live | Ryan Buxton | Posted 09.03.2014 | Women

Aisha Tyler has spoken out about her struggles with infertility before, and she wants other women to know that it's alright to abandon a fruitless eff...

A Childless Woman's Thank You to Jennifer Aniston

Nicole Luongo | Posted 10.29.2014 | Women
Nicole Luongo

Whose business is it, anyway? Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I want to experience child birth. Just because I am the youngest of eleven doesn't mean I want a bunch of kids. I love inspiring and teaching children. I don't want any of my own. And, I'm not alone.

25 Reasons Why Aunts Deserve a Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Melanie Notkin

Babies are born from the womb. Maternity is born from the soul. There are many ways to "mother" a child. Aunthood is as close as it gets.

I Love Kids, But I Don't Want To Be A Mom

Beth Leipholtz | Posted 09.21.2014 | Women
Beth Leipholtz

I absolutely adore children. Or rather, I adore them as long as I can escape from them at the end of the day. And I think that is perfectly OK.

Wishing for You, Wishing for Me

Heather Travis | Posted 08.30.2014 | Women
Heather Travis

I wished to see my husband become the amazing father I know he would be. I wished to watch him with you, to see him reflected in you. I wished to see you grow, to see you become you. I wished for all the good, the bad and the ugly that comes with becoming a parent.