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The Pater: Exploring Childlessness from a (Jewish) Male Perspective

Varda Epstein | Posted 10.13.2016 | Home
Varda Epstein

What is it like to be childless as a Jew, when the very first Jewish commandment is to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28) and scripture likens the childless to the dead? What is it like to be childless in Israel, a country that values children above all, as a supreme value?

How to Know You're Not Alone in the Otherhood

Melanie Notkin | Posted 08.21.2016 | Women
Melanie Notkin

For women in the Otherhood, the term I introduced in my book of the same name for those who aren't part of the expected social norm of marriage and motherhood, whether by choice, or like me, by circumstance, our friendships are key.

Miss Childless-by-Choice

Vanessa de Largie | Posted 07.24.2016 | Women
Vanessa de Largie

What is criminal about a childless woman wanting to have a meal without the distraction of children? There are countless venues that cater for children and carry the child-friendly tag.

270 Reasons Women Choose Not To Have Children

Posted 07.01.2015 | Women

Far too often, women who choose to be childfree are asked to defend their “immature,” “selfish” lifestyles. They’re told that motherhood is ...

I Don't Care If You Don't Want Children...Really

Lorraine Devon Wilke | Posted 05.07.2016 | Parents
Lorraine Devon Wilke

We are a culture that loves to fight, a fact on regular display as we wrangle bird-flipping road-ragers, joust with online trolls, or try reasoning wi...

Coming To Terms With The Fact I'll Never Have Children

Nancy Roman | Posted 05.05.2016 | Fifty
Nancy Roman

I married when I was forty. It was amazing at that age how many people asked me if we were going to have children. 'No,' I'd say, 'We're not having children.' What is amazing to me now is that I thought I was lying. Keeping a secret. Of course we would have children. Forty is still young.

Author Challenges 'Glib, Flippant Rhetoric' About Childlessness

HuffPost Live | Emily Tess Katz | Posted 03.30.2015 | HuffPost Live 321

Meghan Daum has long fluctuated between being "sort of ambivalent to pretty decisive" about not having kids, and while she's grown more comfortable wi...

'I Don't Have Children And I'm Happy About It'

High50 | Posted 10.28.2014 | Fifty

Why is the word 'childless' unacceptable? It screeches of loss or tragedy, even sterility. At best it's offensive to those who have chosen not to have children, and at worst it's grotesquely insensitive to those permitted no choice.

25 Reasons Why Aunts Deserve a Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Melanie Notkin

Babies are born from the womb. Maternity is born from the soul. There are many ways to "mother" a child. Aunthood is as close as it gets.

Why We Should Be Celebrating Other's Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 07.10.2014 | Women
Melanie Notkin

When those of us who are childless by circumstance -- and the majority of childless women want or wanted children within the context of a relationship -- don't speak honestly about our experience, we continue to remain the silent majority.

5 Reasons To Shut Up This Mother's Day

Katherine Stanley Obando | Posted 07.09.2014 | Women
Katherine Stanley Obando

I have an impossible wish this Mother's Day. I wish the holiday could somehow honor a group of women to which I once belonged, and for whom the day is particularly difficult.

Is There Ever a Perfect Time to Have a Child?

Mark Morford | Posted 02.03.2014 | Parents
Mark Morford

Is there ever a moment when you can scan the sociocultural horizon, take in all the tragedy, joy, violence and breathtaking absurdity of the world, and say, "Honey! The world is radiant and the Earth isn't completely tortured at the hand of heartless mega-corporations! Get those pants off!"

The Truth About the Childless Life

Melanie Notkin | Posted 10.01.2013 | Women
Melanie Notkin

We expected we'd have the social, economic and political equality our mothers didn't have, but the family they did. Here we are, among the most well-educated, most successful women in America, wondering how our choice to wait for the right relationship has left us single and childless.

Valeria Bruni Tedeschi's "A Castle in Italy" Brings Brother Back to Life at Cannes

Karin Badt | Posted 07.24.2013 | Entertainment
Karin Badt

The last time I saw Valeria Bruni-Tedeschi, three years ago, she was in tears as her brother had just died of AIDS---and she cut our Cannes interview ...

Affirming All Women In Church On Mother's Day

Rev. Michelle L. Torigian | Posted 07.12.2013 | Religion
Rev. Michelle L. Torigian

We remember the women with many children, young children, a child who has recently died, those who have experienced miscarriage, infertility or painful births, those who have broken relationships with children and women who have not experienced motherhood at all.

Over 40, Single and Childless on Mother's Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 07.08.2013 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I know what some of you may say: Have a baby on your own; adopt; foster. And a few of you may say: Sorry, lady, you should have thought of that earlier. You're just too old. But I want to be a mother.

What Men Are More Depressed About Than Women

Posted 04.08.2013 | Women

By: Megan Gannon, News Editor Published: 04/06/2013 11:15 AM EDT on LiveScience Even though there's often more social pressure on women to have k...

What You Should Never to Say to a Non-Mother of Childbearing Age

Wendy Litner | Posted 04.07.2013 | Women
Wendy Litner

I know you are tired, moms. I know you are overworked, I know you want to tell us for how long you were in labor and I feel for you, I do. But please stop scaring me, because if I do decide to join you, apparently these will be my last days of solitary, flavored yogurt-eating, judgment-free fun.

I'm Single And Childless ... And I Know What You're Thinking

Melanie Notkin | Posted 02.13.2013 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I know what you're thinking. I can read it on your face... the distracted smile, the unconvincing nod, the slightly furrowed brow... You're trying to figure out what's wrong with me.

The Loss I'm Not Allowed to Grieve

Melanie Notkin | Posted 11.26.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

A generation ago, women who did not marry and/or have children by age 40 grieved and moved on. But today, with the advancement of assisted reproductive technology, women are no longer given permission to move on.

50 And Childless: How Did I End Up Here?

Jane Ratcliffe | Posted 11.07.2012 | Fifty
Jane Ratcliffe

I felt having a baby was a natural process, like growing old -- you didn't have to plan for grey hair and wrinkles for them to appear.

Involuntary Childlessness

Erica Berman | Posted 10.22.2012 | Healthy Living
Erica Berman

After years of unsuccessful fertility treatments, three miscarriages, and a husband unwilling to consider other family-building options, Shannon is considering giving up her dream of having another child. She wanted to know if she would ever get over her childlessness.

Childless So Far: Why I Choose Love Over Motherhood

Melanie Notkin | Posted 10.21.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

"You're going to hate me for saying this," says my good friend, a married mom of three, as we stand on the beach and look toward the ocean. "But you'r...

Novelist Maeve Binchy Was Childless, Not Heartless

Melanie Notkin | Posted 10.06.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

There are many ways to mother, just as there are ways to find fault with women who are not mothers.

Is Motherhood The Only Path To Success?

Melanie Notkin | Posted 09.19.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

Could I ever be seen as a true modern woman success story without also juggling motherhood?