The first action necessary to embrace the victor over victim mentality is to realize that you have control over your future. Once you accept that you are the only person who controls your destiny, you can let go of any resentment from past trials.
It is not uncommon for families to delay taking steps toward separation until after the holidays are over. For many, this can mean sadness, tension and worry that their children may be affected by the breakdown of the relationship.
Often times agreements about Halloween do not find their way into parenting plans and yet parents are faced with the task of figuring out how to handle this very American tradition celebrated in most households.
I do not believe that couples ought to stay together for the sake of the children. Marriage is not a prison sentence; children are not your jailers. But that does not mean that divorce does not scar kids.