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Children and Divorce

Thinking Of Divorcing? Read This First

Robert S. Blair Jr. | Posted 06.21.2016 | Divorce
Robert S. Blair Jr.

In my law and mediation practice, I hear these things every day. People who once said "I do" are now saying "Screw you!" They may demonize their spouse and the mother or father of their children. They want justice in their divorce, and they think court is the way to get it. I'm here to say it's not.

My Stepson Is Angry and Aggressive When He's Here!

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 05.31.2016 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Your stepson has been thrown into a situation that I see all too often: one parent says negative things about the other parent or stepparent, creating divided loyalties. The child is faced with an impossible dilemma: Whose side am I supposed to be on?

The Je Ne Sais Quoi of Sound Parenting Plans

Tara Fass | Posted 03.16.2017 | Divorce
Tara Fass

I am of the opinion that the more clarity and definition you have in your co-parenting plan the better. For many of you, the co-parenting plan will be put away in a drawer and rarely, if ever, looked at again. For all of you though, thinking these issues through and really taking them seriously will make a world of difference, and may even help you attain the closure you desperately want and need.

Yes, It's Possible To Divorce Without Ruining Your Kids' Lives

Divorced Moms | Posted 02.09.2017 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

If a separation is handled in the right way -- and what I mean by that is that your kids' well-being drives the process of separation rather than your own ego -- it is possible for your kids to transition well.

7 Ways To Maintain a Positive Relationship With Your Ex

Kristin Davin, Psy.D. | Posted 01.08.2017 | Divorce
Kristin Davin, Psy.D.

Remember, your role as a parent places a pivotal role in what your children take away from the divorce. Learning to work towards improving your relationship with your ex has positive, long-term benefits that help the entire family!

Child Cries When It's Time to Stay With Daddy

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 11.24.2016 | Parents
Susan Stiffelman

Be clear. If you appear uncertain about whether it's a good idea for your son to spend time with his father, he will pick up on your lack of confidence in the arrangement.

Stop! Don't Sign Your Divorce Papers Until You Do This One Crucial Thing

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 11.15.2016 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

he deliberations dragged on so long, I just couldn't stand the wait any longer. Add to that an attorney who was admittedly distracted during the negotiations, and you've got a pretty certain recipe for settlement dissatisfaction. And I don't want the same for you.

50 Things I Learned About Divorce In My 50s

Ellis Bell | Posted 09.29.2016 | Divorce
Ellis Bell

Sometimes you will feel wistful, even nostalgic for times you know were not good. You will feel guilty and sorry that your children are "children of divorce." You will wake up crying at 3:00 or 4:00 a.m., mourning what was and that something fundamental to your existence is over.

17 Things Your Kids Will Appreciate Hearing After You Drop the Divorce Bomb

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 06.25.2016 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

I'm not saying that these are the end-all and the answers to your problems. I just feel like I know how kids of divorce think, and I know that if I were a kid, these are things that would comfort and soothe me tremendously.

What Your Girlfriends Won't Tell You About Kids and Divorce

Beth Cone Kramer | Posted 05.27.2015 | Divorce
Beth Cone Kramer

Ending a marriage when you have children can elicit feelings of guilt ("What could I have done differently to save the marriage?") to panic ("How am I going to be able to support my kids financially and emotionally?") to reluctance and doubt ("Maybe we should just move into separate bedrooms and ignore each other?")

How To Get The Best Revenge On Your Ex (No, Not That Kind Of Revenge)

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 05.17.2015 | Divorce
Laura Lifshitz

Do you want to make your ex squirm? Always and I mean, always do the right thing by him or her.

14 Questions My Son Asked About My Divorce And What I Answered

Divorced Moms | Posted 04.19.2015 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

I am simply a mom who, like so many other moms, wants the best for her kids.

Divorcing? A Few Dos and Don'ts to Help Keep the Holidays Bright for Your Kids

Cheryl and Joe Dillon | Posted 02.01.2015 | Divorce
Cheryl and Joe Dillon

Here are some "dos and don'ts" to keep in mind to make sure your children remember the holidays for what they are -- a time of celebration -- rather than something they discuss in therapy 20 years from now.

Why Your Marriage Is Failing and How to Save It

David Wygant | Posted 01.07.2015 | Divorce
David Wygant

What makes this trend really sad is another kid is not going to make any marriage better. You don't get closer by having another child. You get closer by working on the issues between the two of you. Another child is going to cause more stress, and cost more money.

Splitting the Baby

Krista Barth | Posted 11.12.2014 | Divorce
Krista Barth

I litigate for a living, but if I do my job really well, you never step foot inside a courtroom. If you step foot into a courtroom, you have already lost. You have abdicated your parental authority to the state rather than compromise with someone you once loved.

5 Back to School Strategies for Divorced or Divorcing Parents

Cheryl and Joe Dillon | Posted 10.11.2014 | Divorce
Cheryl and Joe Dillon

If that's true, and your divorce began earlier in the year, it will likely be finalized by summer's end. Leading to a significant change in physical, financial and emotional circumstances for you and your children.

6 Words No Divorced Parent Wants To Hear

Posted 08.03.2014 | Divorce

By Bruce McCracken for Divorce360 Melinda Johnson was doing pretty well four years out of her divorce. Then she heard the words that rattled her wo...

9 Things To Consider Before Telling Your Kids About The Divorce

Posted 07.28.2014 | Divorce

By Armin Brott for KnowMore.tv’s GalTime Anyone who’s been through a divorce will tell you that ending a marriage (or a long-term relationship)...

Divorcing Parents: 10 Questions to Ask Before Fighting Over the Kids

Rosalind Sedacca | Posted 09.20.2014 | Divorce
Rosalind Sedacca

Seek out attorneys who are genuinely family-focused and try to keep you out of court. Bring in therapists or divorce coaches to provide insights and strategies for resolving conflict on behalf of everyone in the family. Be a caring, responsible parent.

10 Signs Your Kid Is Adjusting Well To The Divorce

Posted 07.20.2014 | Divorce

By Wendi Schuller for DivorcedMoms.com It is easy post-divorce to be in the survival mode and not really notice if there are any red flags regardin...

10 Signs Your Kid Is Doing OK After The Divorce

Rosalind Sedacca | Posted 08.18.2014 | Divorce
Rosalind Sedacca

We all know divorce can take its toll on both parents and their children. However, that doesn't have to be the case. Parents who focus their love and ...

Grandparenting Children of Divorce

Risa Garon | Posted 07.22.2014 | Divorce
Risa Garon

Share feelings with them that are age appropriate but not about either parent. Children don't want to be responsible for how you feel about their parents.

3 Ways To Keep Your Cool When Your Kids Lose Theirs

Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz | Posted 06.07.2014 | Divorce
Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz

Children demand a lot of attention which often requires an inordinate amount of patience. So be generous with yourself and accept your human imperfection. Your commitment to work on self-control is what matters, not your temporary mistakes.

Is Living With a Narcissistic Parent Damaging to Your Kids?

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW | Posted 04.29.2014 | Divorce
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

There is some evidence that children raised by a narcissist can adopt some of their personality characteristics such as self-centeredness, inflated sense of entitlement and lack of empathy.

January Divorces Pose Special Challenges for Children

Rosalind Sedacca | Posted 03.23.2014 | Divorce
Rosalind Sedacca

My advice to parents is simple, but not always easy. Put yourself in your child's place and feel the insecurity, fear, anxiety, guilt and shame that your child may be experiencing.