Society has changed, in large part, to accommodate us. But have LGBT people, in particular by parenting, changed society? Almost magically, recently published books started arriving in my mailbox to help my understanding.
On June 9th, my twin sons will turn two years old. It's only slightly less opaque after two years, but I've made an observation or two, some of which apply to two-dad families and some of which apply to most anyone.
First, my children (or anyone's children) should never hear they're lucky someone loves them and cares for them. That should be a given for every child. The fact that it's not a reasonable expectation isn't a matter of luck. It's the failure of adults, pure and simple.
I don't think of him as a "gay dad." I see him as the man who was strong enough to overcome many obstacles, including addiction, so that he could take care of his brothers and sisters, a man loving enough to raise me as his own even though he is only my guardian by law.
LGBT parents aren't necessarily "better," but the fact that so many of their children seem to be resilient enough to deal with whatever life throws at them is a testament to both the individuals and their relationships.