I don't think of him as a "gay dad." I see him as the man who was strong enough to overcome many obstacles, including addiction, so that he could take care of his brothers and sisters, a man loving enough to raise me as his own even though he is only my guardian by law.
LGBT parents aren't necessarily "better," but the fact that so many of their children seem to be resilient enough to deal with whatever life throws at them is a testament to both the individuals and their relationships.
Julie was 7 or 8 when I was acknowledging my true orientation. My wife and I, soon to be amicably divorced, were fortunate enough to be living in a large, rambling country home. We decided that we could pursue our respective next chapters while staying under one roof.
After the "M" bomb went off, a barrage of questions entered my already crowded brain, questions I'm sure many gay dads have pondered: How are we going to explain our unique family to our daughter? How do we explain the concept of having a biological mother who is not actually her parent?
Just like any expectant parent, my vague intellectual understanding just meant that I really didn't have a clue. But after a year as Mia's dad, I've come to learn a few things, none of which feel like I ever thought they would.
During the Supreme Court arguments in the Proposition 8 case last week, there seemed to be some confusion about the social science evidence concerning same-sex parents and their ability to raise children, but there is no "disagreement" among the experts about what the research says.
Take off your Google glasses, unplug your Wii Hologram, and let your father be corny for just a moment. You can eyeroll all you want at what I'm about to say, but allow me this moment to tell you just how much you mean to me, and what goes through my mind when I say your names.