All of the things we want for our child have a real chance of manifesting when we accept their behaviors rather than fear them. It's like the wall of tension we created gets toppled, and we actually create a bridge for our child to connect with us. And when that bridge is built, they are not only reachable, but they reach out to us.
You don't know me, but I've been thinking about you ever since I read about your family's experience on that United flight. I wish I had been sitting in the aisle across from you when you tried to explain to the crew about Juliette -- about how she needed to eat something hot because when she's hungry, she gets distressed.
As much as I want my children to accept and embrace what life gives, I don't want them to feel guilty for wishing that their sister could tie her shoes or write her name or talk to them about how life can be so mean and unfair. I want them to know it's OK to love their sister, while not loving that she has autism.
My whole existence is to ensure my family's success. At times, that will mean that my princess makes too much noise in public. More often than not, I will get it wrong and make matters worse -- sorry, I'm new to this. We are trying to give our princess the best possible life -- and I wouldn't change this for the world.