It's not in my nature to take a pause for something when I'm dedicated to getting it done a certain way. But what I know is that stopping and asking myself if there might be an easier way is worth the potential time and energy I would save.
It's all on you for your life and it's all on me for mine. So, what's it going to be next time you end up in a less than desirable situation, are you going to turn inward and take responsibility for how you got there? Or are you going to lash out? The choice is yours, no one else's.
When we set an intention to regularly cultivate our minds, we enhance our ability to respond thoughtfully and not react when confronted with challenge or change. This ability to respond is what I call being response-able.
Unfortunately, the solution to our indecisiveness is unromantic. Paul Oyer suggests the last thing our generation wants to do: settle. "Just as everybody accepts a job that doesn't have that last little perk they wanted, at some point you have to accept a life partner."
Tragedy, betrayal, abandonment, abuse, financial ruin, and illness? I've survived it all. And I refuse to let any of this harden me. I am here to love and be loved with an open and humble heart. And so are you.
Normality is simply what we're used to. And once we're used to it, we stop paying attention to it. It goes unseen. Even our own thoughts. Maybe ever so often something alerts us to the fact it isn't what it should, or could, be.
Starting now, we need to get over ourselves. We need to know that, sometimes, looking bad is actually a good thing...because it means we're trying something new, we're stretching ourselves, we're taking on a new adventure.
When I became a mother, my four most dreaded words became "What do you do?" Prior to motherhood, I had a professional identity, an easy way to present myself. Now as a mother, I find no easy way to present this new identity and what I do.