See what happened there? Those three simple letters changed everything. All of a sudden it wasn't that I couldn't do something...but that I couldn't do it at this moment. And, if I wanted to, I could do it in the future.
Isn't it strange how even real close people keep surprising us with unexpected behavior? Have you ever been wondering about yourself, when a challenging situation took you by surprise and triggered a response you never thought you were capable of?
Love is certainly a choice, but so is robbing a convenience store. That doesn't mean it's a good choice, or that you should get points in heaven for doing it. We all know plenty of people who choose partners who are real sickos.
Indecisiveness is a productivity and creativity killer. It often leads to a syndrome known as analysis paralysis. Fear of choosing the wrong thing, making the wrong decision is at the root of the problem for many people. And then there's overthinking. It too can cause paralysis.
To be human is to feel uneasiness or even dread. But not all humans allow themselves the self-awareness to recognize painful experiences and use those experiences as a catalyst for personal exploration and to make decisions that are good for them and only them.
Your life is your life. You can choose who you want to be. Why not makes choices to have your life be as good as possible, no matter what your circumstances? Things don't always happen for the best but you can sure chose to make the best out of whatever happens to you.
In 2013, I chose to take a radical sabbatical from my lucrative job at a top wealth management firm and spent the next three years volunteering my time and working for free. This decision came after more than 25 years as an academic, technology entrepreneur and business advisor.
Instead of fearing what might happen in the unknown, instead of imagining and trying to pre-control worst-case scenarios, we can plan as best we can... and then move forward with a sense of curiosity. We can let things progress, and then respond as needed.
God gives us invitations to meet him every day. Every second. God reveals his plan and presence in our lives through, what I term, "G-vites". For much of my life, I ignored G-vites presented to me in my ordinary day. Instead, I let others define the way to connect with God.
Most animals exhibit exploratory behaviors, so I guess I will just have to keep exploring my world, seeing the new movie or going to that party that might be really fun. I am curious whether you, my readers, can relate to this column.
Ronna Lebo -- artist, writer, musician, mother of two, grandmother of two -- learned a lot about living from birthing, mothering, and creating. The main lesson she learned, the big takeaway, for her was "Life goes on."