Having been catapulted into the world of special needs almost exactly 6 years ago, I have several close friends who have children with DS, and many of them have taken an active and passionate stance against some media's one-sided portrayal of this new test as an unequivocally "good thing."
Well, it's not you, it's your resolutions. We make them, and statistically all but 8% of New Year's Resolutions are kept. The job, the man, life. The kids, the divorce, the move, financial insecurity. The patriarchy. Women's roles.
Our basics are our basics. What we choose to add on is up to us but each of those choices may mean saying no, or pressing pause, on something else. Whether we know it or not, we're prioritizing. Our lifestyle is a direct reflection of how we prioritize these choices.
When I was 7, I did what I wanted to do. I didn't let someone influence what I wanted at that moment. Of course, my decision may have been influenced without me realizing, the same as are my decision today. But I didn't listen to anyone else, I listened to my heart.
I want to be born again in exactly the same circumstances to exactly the same family. But when I come to those pivotal decisions in my life -- those 'forks in the road', so to speak -- I want to choose the OPPOSITE this time around.
It's all on you for your life and it's all on me for mine. So, what's it going to be next time you end up in a less than desirable situation, are you going to turn inward and take responsibility for how you got there? Or are you going to lash out? The choice is yours, no one else's.
Making a change and getting a new habit to stick can be hard. Especially in the early days. Enter a moment of stress, exhaustion or emotional strain and poof! Suddenly, the early motivation we had to change has gone out the window and we disappointingly find we have returned to our old ways.
And I'm scared to put my agency behind something because I'm distinctly uncomfortable with the idea of slinging my pack over my shoulders and walking over the horizon, knowing I'll never return to this place again.
I want women to know to just freeze their eggs if they want to. And for younger women, take a minute when you're in your 20's or 30's and just freeze them if you think having kids later in life is important to you. Because life happens - and sometimes things you think will line up, don't.
It takes a person with great courage to look inward and figure out why life isn't going according to plan. Maybe there's a measure of success but you know it could be marginally better. Okay, significantly better!
I have made many choices in my life. Some turned out well and some were less successful. One choice in my life was to seek and follow my truth. It really does matter that it took me so many years before I did this. I never look back; I never ask that useless "what if" question.
Starting now, we need to get over ourselves. We need to know that, sometimes, looking bad is actually a good thing...because it means we're trying something new, we're stretching ourselves, we're taking on a new adventure.
Before the Wright brothers we were afraid of flying. Before Copernicus and even for a bit after we were afraid of the stars. Before Tesla we were afraid of electricity. Before AOL people were afraid of the Internet.
We've all had this experience, the feeling of being in one place physically, but entirely somewhere else mentally. At times like that, have you noticed yourself feeling kind of exhausted? If not exhausted, then perhaps just not as happy, fun, patient, or loving as you'd like.