Yes, living your all comes with sacrifice. But by getting rid of the things and relationships that make you only somewhat happy (or plain unhappy), you get to live a life filled with what you love best, and then focus on them with everything you've got.
If we really want to be intentional in our lives, if we really want to stick to decisions about our success and happiness, then we must be OK with not being a part of everything... of anything other than what's going on for us right now.
Last year I stepped into a volunteer leadership position for an organization. I did my best with it, but I really didn't feel useful. Nor did I enjoy it at all. And so when the time came to renew it, I decided not to. But there was one problem.
If there's a fictional world you love but you know that it's dark and can negatively impact your mood or actions, then make sure you watch, listen to or read something lighter afterwards to balance it out.
Considering that this is one of the biggest problems I've struggled with personally, I have been on a constant look-up for all wisdom, tools, or advice on how to best tackle decision-making. Personally, I see the problem as two-fold.
Should you marry that guy? Should you take that job offer in Seattle? Should you go back to school? For many people, important decisions like these are sources of dread and anxiety. They dominate our thoughts during the day and keep us up at night.
Honking is something that feels OK for many of us to do, but feels terribly personal when it happens to us. Honking may create sound on the outside, but it happens because we're not too happy inside... and we need a release.
Keep expecting the best and visualize and write down what qualities you are looking for in your soul mate, but don't drive yourself bonkers, get out and do something constructive or fun, who knows you might bump into them!
I want to live in a little house with a big porch on the seashore. I want to live in an apartment in New York City with a geranium on the fire escape. I want crisp white sheets and gingham curtains.
I want gilded mirrors and french porcelain.