Are you a divorced mom? Is your relationship with your ex more scary than merry? If so, the holidays can make for some extra rough sledding. And there's nothing quite like co-parenting with a grinchy ex to put you in a bah humbug state of mind.
You can't explain to a 10-year-old child that you can't call them because mommy went to court to prohibit it. While your anger may make you want to tell them, you know it is not in their best interests to possess that information.
Sure, you can claim to be unemotional, but if you resort to name calling or hanging up on your ex or refusing to respond to emails/texts, then you are clearly working on emotions rather than focusing on your shared vision for the children.
I don't want you to ever feel like you have to choose between your dad and me. We sit together at activities and have all eaten dinner together after basketball games -- not because we are all such good buddies, but because we all share something very important: our love for you both.
Do they love him more? Is he more fun? Would they rather be there than at my house? These were all questions running through my mind. I was angry at them, angry at my ex, and angry at the world. I was bitter and wished I wasn't divorced.
Since the amount of child support one is required to contribute is formulary and based on statutory guidelines, it stands to reason then that modification of child support would be requested when there is a "substantial change of circumstance."
As despair and rage subsides, adult relationships reconstitute from lovers to more business-like, problem-solving platonic parents. It's possible this way to be devoted and reliable parents, who raise secure well-loved and cared for children.