In honor of the fact that JoAnn and I are celebrating our thirty-seventh wedding anniversary this week, I thought I'd reflect a little on what I think has allowed our relationship to survive.
In America you can't marry a second time unless you are divorced or widowed. Despite contradictory data on divorce rates, the fact is that the baby boomers have driven up the numbers on divorce and remarriage.
For someone trying to demonstrate that a former spouse is living with someone else in an effort to have an alimony obligation reduced or terminated, the job of collecting evidence is much easier today.
Would the comfy lounge chairs and soothing smell of lattes create the kind of inviting atmosphere, where people going through the most challenges conflicts of their lives, could open up and discuss their divorce?
Most who have been through a divorce will tell you that it is a marathon, not a sprint. In order to get to the finish line without collapsing, it is helpful to have a coach guide you from beginning to end.
How do you know if losing the romantic connection is a normal and real practical part of your marriage, or if it's something that needs to change? Here are a few signs that you may want to mix up your routine so it doesn't take a negative toll on your relationship.
Alimony reform is on the rise, and there's simply no avoiding it. Nor should there be. One ripe area for change is the circumstance of cohabitation, its effect on spousal support, and the challenges surrounding the ability to prove it.
The synod's report is an invitation to reform the likes of which we have not seen for half a century. I hope to be a full participant in this debate, and certainly I encourage others to join the discussion.
Even in the twenty-first century, when ideas about the nature of modern families have changed, many notions about marriage remain the same.
Although 48 percent of women now move in with their mate as a first step before getting married only 40 percent of cohabitating couples actually tie the knot. So, if you want to get the keys before the ring, here are the six crucial questions to ask before moving in to avoid becoming a shacking up statistic.
Cohabitation, once thought to be the lifestyle of younger people aged 20-40ish, has now grown into a very real option for those 50 years and older after they divorce. Cohabitating is now viewed by many as the best long-term alternative to marriage for older Americans.
Interestingly enough, even American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers members in the states that currently don't allow same-sex marriage have noted an increased number of consultations with same-sex couples to discuss cohabitation agreements and other legal strategies.
At the end of the day, very often litigants are left wondering, "Was it worth it?" Wouldn't it be nice if we could go into the process with a better understanding of what it may actually cost to litigate a claim, so we can weigh the pros and cons and make our own, informed decisions?
Including cell tower location data, social media and other web-based "evidence" into the standard discovery process in family law is quickly trending in the United States as the most cost-and-time efficient method for proving certain aspects of various domestic relations claims.
The widespread cultural belief in "soul mate ideology" undermines our chances at happiness because it makes us passive receivers of idyllic romantic expectations.
A few things can jeopardize an alimony obligation... death, remarriage or that elusive term used for describing an exclusive marriage-like relationship, "cohabitation."