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When Divorcing, Beware of Meddlers!

Mark Baer | Posted 07.28.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I was recently contacted to potentially mediate a litigated divorce matter prior to trial, which is rapidly approaching. My name had been included on a list from the attorneys, along with two other mediators.

Kids Say the Funniest Things: Divorce Speak from the Mouths of Babes

Natalie Gregg | Posted 07.07.2015 | Divorce
Natalie Gregg

If you thought your ex spouse had the ability to defrock you in one sentence or to befuddle you with a single word, you probably already know that children can do the same.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Final Part

Mark Baer | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Since this is the final article in this series, I am finally going to share the answer I gave the attorney colleague of mine who asked me the following question: "Any thoughts on how to make money as a family lawyer when you're not prepared to screw the other side?"

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part VI

Mark Baer | Posted 06.19.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

A great many of my family law attorney colleagues believe that mediation only works under such narrow circumstances, that almost no cases are appropriately suitable for it. They believe that mediation is only effective in family law cases under the following circumstances.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part IV

Mark Baer | Posted 05.19.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On July 10, 2011, Joan T. Daniels, Esq. posted the following comment on the listserv for the members of the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles Coun...

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part III

Mark Baer | Posted 05.13.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Part II of this series ended with the following question from an attorney colleague on the listserv for the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles Coun...

The State Bar of California Intends on Silencing Its Members

Mark Baer | Posted 05.07.2015 | Politics
Mark Baer

If the Bar does decide to require certain disclaimers in lawyer blogs, how does that impact previously published blogs over which the attorney does not have editorial control?

Divorcing? Protect Your Finances, Personal Data

Jason Alderman | Posted 09.22.2014 | Divorce
Jason Alderman

Divorce can be a painful experience to live through. Don't make it worse by not protecting your own financial interests.

What Is Required to Make Collaborative Divorce Truly Collaborative?

Mark Baer | Posted 08.03.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Those of you who have been reading my series of articles about "Collaborative Divorce" should be well aware of the fact that I have quoted Stephen Wil...

How Many Ways Can You Untie the Knot?

Joel Sucher | Posted 08.03.2014 | Entertainment
Joel Sucher

Can Untying the Knot capture what viewers really expect from divorce? I'm talking about the outright meanness, the slinging of vitriol and the wielding of vengeance studded cudgels all meant to reduce your other half to a blubbering mess ready to give it all up.

'Collaborative Divorce' Is Collaborative in Name Only

Mark Baer | Posted 07.12.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

It seems to me that as currently practiced, "Collaborative Divorce" is collaborative in name only and at best should be called "Cooperative Divorce."

The Consequence of Unenforced Ethical Guidelines for Collaborative Divorce

Mark Baer | Posted 06.07.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

The Ethical Guidelines for Collaborative Divorce by Collaborative Divorce Institute provide in pertinent part as follows: "All Collaborative Divorce ...

Must Parties Confirm That They Are Open to Settlement For Mediation to Be Effective?

Mark Baer | Posted 06.02.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I want to once again deconstruct aspects of Franklin Garfield's article titled "Should Divorcing Couples Who Mediate Be Talking Through Counsel?" because I find it an effective way of raising certain aspects of mediation, bringing about a discussion on those issues and educating people.

The Makings of a New Way: "Conscious Uncoupling"

Ellen Kellner | Posted 05.27.2014 | Divorce
Ellen Kellner

Call it conscious uncoupling, call it mindful divorce -- it's a groundswell that's ready for the Goop tipping point.

What Is "Collaborative Divorce" Without Collaboration?

Mark Baer | Posted 05.22.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

The concept of collaborative divorce resonates deeply with me. As I have written in the past, "Collaborative divorce truly does incorporate all of the...

'Happy Valentine's Day. I Want a Divorce.'

Michelle Crosby | Posted 04.07.2014 | Divorce
Michelle Crosby

There are no legal answers to emotional issues such as anger, betrayal, sadness and fear. No law has been written that magically determines who should get the kids when or who cares more about that crystal vase in your living room.

An Essay on Divorce Corp., The Movie

Diana Mercer | Posted 03.24.2014 | Divorce
Diana Mercer

I finally saw Divorce Corp. Finally. After much banter on Facebook, a barrage of emails, a New York Times article, and the Huffington Post's own Paul Raeburn's review of the film, I finally saw what all the fuss is about.

5 Ways to Protect Children During Divorce

Deborah Anderson Bialis | Posted 01.25.2014 | Divorce
Deborah Anderson Bialis

Wondering what is best for your kids and navigating the optimal way to get them through the transition might feel like a constant struggle.

Moving From Parenting to Co-parenting: Joining Together in Divorce

John McElhenney | Posted 01.25.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

In my state, as a man, if you want something other than the SPO and non-custodial parent role, you're going to have to fight. You're going to have to disagree with your expensive 'parenting planning' and PH.D family therapist.

Important Distinctions Between Litigation and Mediation

Mark Baer | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Throughout the conference, the panelists kept reiterating that what occurs in court is state specific, "locale specific," and jurist specific. In other words, results vary from judge to judge based upon the judge's biases, beliefs, assumptions and values. I think this should really scare anyone and everyone.

The Best Way to Divorce?

Stann Givens | Posted 11.25.2013 | Divorce
Stann Givens

I have seen scenarios that in the past would have taken twice as long, been absolutely hostile the whole way and cost each party loads of money, turn into situations where time, money and energy have been saved.

Do Feelings Matter in Mediation?

Mark Baer | Posted 09.16.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

While litigation and the court process may not address feelings and emotions, such things are dealt with in collaborative law and certain mediation models.

Should Lawyers Be Required to Take Continuing Education Courses on Human Mental Processes?

Mark Baer | Posted 08.18.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On May 23, 2012, I gave a presentation to the members of the San Gabriel Valley Chapter of the Financial Planning Association. The topic was "Are Atto...

Is the Adversary Model Appropriate or Suitable for Family Law Matters?

Mark Baer | Posted 08.09.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Divorce doesn't impact children, especially if they are adults, does it? When families are "ripped apart by divorce," it has no consequences, right? ...

Divorcing Mr. Mom

Katherine Eisold Miller | Posted 06.02.2013 | Divorce
Katherine Eisold Miller

Traditional assumptions about gender roles may be weakening in today's marriages, but they are going strong in divorce. Women who were the higher-earners in their marriage don't want to pay alimony, and many men are uncomfortable receiving it.