We've become much more than the one-dimensional girls who met 30 years ago. All that loss -- of spouses, parents and dreams of the perfect lives we thought awaited us -- has let us connect with each other in a more real way. We tease and joke and boss, but there's a softness to it now.
Article after article is published with a variety of tips for surviving freshman year. There's talk among the upcoming class about how "totally awesome" Summer C was and how "totally smashed" everyone got. However, little is said about those beginning their second year of college.
How do you know when a friendship ends? Especially with the eternally open window that is Facebook? Seeing those images made me realize that those women, once my nearest and dearest, are no longer part of my life.
After seeing a Facebook photo of Carmina and her best friend Patty last month, I realized something was wrong. The comments below the picture read 'BFF's before there were BFF's' and 'Very significant photo.' I sent questions to her FB friends. The funeral was the next morning.
Let's all stop trying to achieve this ideal and exercise your power to surround ourselves with the best of people. While everyone has their own set of traits that they look for in a friend, I find that these characteristics are utterly viable reasons to not associate with someone.
This concept of what is typical or fun or acceptable is not just a societal trick. We reinforce it for ourselves, in real time, huddled around our laptops, crafting an online narrative of The Best Four Years Of Our Lives.