It's college graduation season, which means that it's reunion season, too -- that time when college alumni go back to their alma mater and drink heavily to forget how old they really are. Here are 20 things that will (probably) happen when you go back to your 20th college reunion.
Cornell was home, and it always will be home. It felt good to be home, even for a brief weekend. I've been to every reunion, every five years, since I graduated. In many ways, I can mark the milestones of my adult life by those reunions.
If you're born poor and don't go to college you're likely to remain poor, but if you finish college you're as likely to become rich as to remain poor. At its core, inequality is about education. If there's hope, it must lie with the schools.
Maybe at 20 you still take the very notion of a lifelong friendship for granted. A grand statement that is meaningless when you're barely out of your teens. But now, a few years later, we seem to know better.
I remember first seeing her after my "freshman trip" -- a ritual three-day hike embarked upon by freshmen before the official beginning of school. Tan, tall and radiating confidence, she sat in the front of the circle. If Mattel made an "outdoor Barbie," it would have looked just like her.
I had read some pieces about how social media may kill off reunions -- if we already know what's going on with our friends and classmates over the Internet what's the point of spending time and money to see them?
Hooking up with people who knew you in high school is always a loaded proposition. There are the inevitable comparisons of success in all things from career to marriage to how your offspring have fared.
Reunions, it turns out, are chances to unburden ourselves of memory, to reconfigure and rewrite it with wisdom gained the hard way, every day. The stories we tell ourselves of the past, present and future can be fearless.