I celebrate National Coming Out Day by talking about how you can "come out" even if you've been a declared homosexual for years. Then I offer assistance to those about to come out, and I even emulate their family members' responses.
You deserve to be among people who get you. If they don't get you, they don't deserve you. I'm not saying you should quit your job tomorrow; I'm just nudging you to ask "How much would someone have to pay me, to get me to deny my own life?"