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Coming Out as Gay

What Should I Expect Before I Come Out?

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By YourTango.com Coming out of the closet to friends, family and colleagues can be a stressful time in one's life. In a way, it's like shedding an ...

Gay NFL Veteran: 'I Did Not Feel Safe At All' In The Locker Room

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Retired NFL veteran Esera Tuaolo joined HuffPost Live this week to discuss the implications of college football star Michael Sam's coming out. "I...

10 Ways Not to React to Someone's Coming Out

Nathalie Vassallo | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Nathalie Vassallo

Well, some of us are lucky and do have understanding and supportive friends and mothers. But, for others -- and perhaps the majority -- the reality is a bit different.

WATCH: The Amazing Way This Teen Came Out To His Parents

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

When he decided to come out to his parents, gay teen Keanu Williams opted to take the confectionary route. Though it was shot in August 2013, vide...

10 Surprising Reactions To A Straight Spouse Coming Out

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com Shared life, shared bed, shared closet. A spouse coming out changes all of that. It might seem a little crazy, b...

How A Grandfather's Love, Acceptance And Faith Shaped This Gay Man's Life

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com Simple living. Simple faith. Simple love. These are the life lessons my grandfather taught me about judgment, ac...

Why Lesbian Identity Matters

Mona Shattell | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mona Shattell

There is a misunderstanding that one way to show one's acceptance of LGBTQ folks is to claim that sexual identity really does not matter.

What's The Best Way To Come Out During The Holidays?

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

The holidays can be a delicate time when it comes to dealing with extended family members. The season can be particularly challenging for those who pl...

USAFA Closets Are for Clothes, Not Cadets

Tom Carpenter | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Tom Carpenter

The U.S. Air Force Academy cannot give closeted cadets the personal courage to come out. That is a decision that only they can make for themselves. But what the Academy can do is recognize that there are closeted LGB cadets who find the atmosphere unwelcoming.

How Did You Tell Your Parents You Were Gay?

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

How did you come out to your parents? That's the question posed in this clever new video featuring Kristin and Dannielle from EveryoneIsGay.com. Th...

Coming Out and Finding Happiness

Matt Jacobi | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Matt Jacobi

When I hear about young kids wanting to kill themselves or crying out for help because they are being bullied in school, I want to tell them to never give up. I know what it's like to not want to go on, but I am so glad I did. It does not just get better; it gets a hell of a lot better!

Giving You Permission to Be...

Craig Stewart | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Craig Stewart

However many people we may come out to, there's still a journey of self-affirmation that has to take place; otherwise we remain in constant search of self-acceptance. It took years before I reached a comfort level in my skin. Coming to terms with one's sexuality is a lifelong journey.

Nothing to Fear: A Letter to My Closeted 12-Year-Old Self

Mason Hsieh | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mason Hsieh

"If you could write a letter to your younger self, what would you say in only two words?" One of my mentors asked me this recently, and as she waited patiently for an answer, all I could think about was a letter I'd written in sixth grade to my future self.

The Worst Thing About Coming Out

John Chagnon | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
John Chagnon

When I first heard about a project called The Worst Thing About Coming Out (WTACO), I had mixed feelings about the concept. The act of coming out entails such an array of emotions that I wasn't sure that focusing on the worst part of it would be a positive approach to the subject.

Dear Fear, I'll Win

Troy Roness | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Troy Roness

I wanted to reflect on the events of the past five years of my life, which masked themselves as "distractions," and send a letter directly to what has kept me from succeeding all along: fear. Fear is one of the biggest obstacles that any of us will ever face.

Neil Patrick Harris: 'I Can Totally Understand' Why Anderson Cooper Waited To Come Out

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Neil Patrick Harris joined HuffPost Live's Josh Zepps for a frank discussion that recalled his own public coming out process in 2006. “I feel in ...

An Excerpt From Words Never Spoken, My Memoir

Craig Stewart | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Craig Stewart

I thought that all gay men were interested in becoming women and wearing women's clothes and were flamboyant and destined for hell. I wasn't. So from puberty through my college years, I concealed my feelings and innermost thoughts.

How My Experience on My Big Fat Revenge Helped Me Realize I'm Gay

Bo Sellers | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Bo Sellers

A couple of weeks after I had finished filming the show, I was talking with a female friend. She was telling me about her day, but I wasn't hearing a word she was saying because I was staring at her quizzically, trying to decipher what I was feeling. Then it hit me: I was sexually attracted to her.

'I've Just Never Seen So Many Gays In One Place'

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Biz Hurst for YourTango.com It's an interesting concept for me to date an actual lesbian. I'm 24, and, looking back on my past relationships, I...

Weeklings!: How to Come Out, and What to Expect (VIDEO)

Louis Virtel | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Louis Virtel

2013-10-11-weeklingscomingoutday2013small.pngI celebrate National Coming Out Day by talking about how you can "come out" even if you've been a declared homosexual for years. Then I offer assistance to those about to come out, and I even emulate their family members' responses.

10 Great Reasons Not To Come Out Of The Closet?

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com In honor of National Coming Out Day, I thought I'd stir up the pot and go a little rogue. You see, there are ti...

The Universal Experience of Coming Out

Dana Beyer | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Dana Beyer

Most human beings are closeted in one form or another. We all have secrets, what are euphemistically called "skeletons in the closet." While in the closet, we lead lives, as Thoreau said, "of quiet desperation." I believe that coming out is so powerful because it is a universal desire.

The Places I Have Come Out

J.E. Reich | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
J.E. Reich

On the front porch of my mother's house, coiled on a swing. Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish new year. In the spirit of the high holidays, in the spirit of atonement, I confess my predilections to her. These things weren't supposed to happen to her, she says.

Why Coming Out Is Like 'Relieving Yourself Of Mental Constipation'

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Tiffany McHugh for YourTango.com This Friday marks the 25th anniversary of National Coming Out Day, where The Human Rights Campaign encourages ...

Lessons From Coming Out in 1976

Mark Olmsted | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mark Olmsted

It rather astounds me that I was as self-affirming as I was at a time when the Stonewall riots were not yet seven years in the past and homosexuality was still unimaginably taboo, at least for my parents' generation.