I want to remind you of some things that you are probably going to have to remind yourself of many times as you work through this with your parents, especially if they aren't proving to be as accepting and affirming as you had wished, and even more so if they are downright cruel.
Eventually, though, I grew up. I wasn't that cherubic ginger grandson on whom they once doted. I went through puberty. I started experimenting sexually. I came out. And that's where this relationship starts to hurt.
Rajasvini "Vini" Bhansali, the super-charged, super-smart CEO of the International Development Exchange, recently talked with me on camera about community and coming out as a 19-year-old "queer woman like me."
Telling a few loved ones that I'm gay has been interesting, but most people who know me are learning this for the first time as they read this piece. Aug. 31, 2010 was a first step. On that day I received the craziest response: acceptance. That's the response I'd feared.