A colleague suggests that we reframe "coming out" as "letting in," as in letting others into our lives. The "letting in" frame allows for agency over what to disclose, to whom and when. If coming out is a confession, then letting in is a communion. We share our life stories, not just our secrets.
The death-of-the-gay-coming-out-film thesis was flawed but provocative, and I used it as a jumping-off point for my new play, The Fire Horse. There's been very little discussion around what happens after coming out.