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Coming Out of the Closet

Mika Comes Out: 'If You Ask Me Am I Gay, I Say Yeah'

Posted 08.06.2012 | Gay Voices

He's avoided questions about his personal life for years, but now, British pop singer Mika is going public about his sexuality in a new interview. ...

Should Sally Ride Have Publicly Come Out?

AP | By DAVID CRARY | Posted 07.26.2012 | Gay Voices

NEW YORK -- Pioneering astronaut Sally Ride, who relished privacy as much as she did adventure, chose an appropriately discreet manner of coming out. ...

From Silence, Stigma, And Shame: Finding My Voice

Chana Wilson | Posted 09.24.2012 | Gay Voices
Chana Wilson

Fear was releasing from my body as my mother's story echoed on the airwaves from the Pacific to the Sierra foothills. But when it came to my story -- my story, not my mother's -- the silence of my childhood was still deeply embedded in my body.

How Coming Out Heals Your Life

Jordan Bach | Posted 09.18.2012 | Gay Voices
Jordan Bach

I found coming out to be an extremely healing experience that wasn't easy at first, but led me toward greater peace and wholeness. Telling the truth can be challenging, but it will bring your destiny closer to you; it will ignite your life and give your struggle greater meaning and purpose.

Gay Chicago TV Tackles LGBTQ Visibility And The Many Faces Of Coming Out

Waymon Hudson | Posted 09.15.2012 | Gay Voices
Waymon Hudson

Too often we see the queer community literally white-washed. Telling the stories and honoring the coming-out struggles of people of color like Frank Ocean and Diana King, or of people who challenge gender roles like Megan Rapinoe, is extremely important.

Who Am I, Really?

Justin McCoy | Posted 09.15.2012 | Gay Voices
Justin McCoy

Around the age of 18, I realized that there was something off about me; I just didn't know what it was or what to do. I did know that I did not like who I was or my appearance. I did not recognize the person in the mirror. I asked myself, "Could I be transgender?" I was terrified.

What I Wish I Could Say To My Younger, Still-Closeted Self

Brennan Hicks | Posted 09.12.2012 | Gay Voices
Brennan Hicks

I found myself trying to act more "straight." Really, I was just trying to make myself appear more "masculine" through my music choices and dress, avoiding anything I feared would out me. By doing this, however, I was effectively putting myself into a cramped and awkward cocoon.

My 'Coming Out'

Lori Sokol | Posted 09.05.2012 | Gay Voices
Lori Sokol

"Weren't you that uptight student who interviewed me?" Dr. Farley asked me upon completion of my "coming-out" speech a few weeks ago. "Yes," I responded, retelling how much I'd feared that she'd been able to sense the true sexual orientation that I was desperately trying to conceal.

Come Out, Come Out, Whatever You Are!

Noah Baron | Posted 09.04.2012 | Gay Voices
Noah Baron

Those of us who were lucky enough to be born into climates safe for us -- because of where we live or because of the identity we have -- have a moral obligation to be out (and yes, I'm looking at you, closeted celebrities). Cowardice and "privacy" are no excuse.

On Anderson Cooper And The 'Private Lives' Of LGBT People

John Becker | Posted 09.04.2012 | Gay Voices
John Becker

How often do we hear about the boyfriends/girlfriends, fiancés, spouses, or even the one-night stands of our straight friends and co-workers? Yet as soon as LGBT people enter into the discussion, love and sexuality become a matter of a person's "private life"? Give me a break.

Anderson Cooper, At Last

Michael Lucas | Posted 09.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Michael Lucas

Cooper's silence sent a loud if unintentional message to the straight people who still think gays are different and threatening, and to the gay kids who still don't have enough public examples of successful, happy people who happen to be gay. I was that kind of gay kid.

Thank You, Anderson

Justin Sedor | Posted 09.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Justin Sedor

I'm proud to be able to point to a man as brave, eloquent, professional, and honorable as Anderson Cooper and say, honestly and with no hesitation, "I want to be like him someday." We gained a real hero yesterday.

Why Do We Wait To Come Out?

Zinnia Jones | Posted 09.02.2012 | Gay Voices
Zinnia Jones

Even after we've come to understand who we are and become truly comfortable with ourselves, that final leap to public openness can still be daunting, no matter how much time we've had to prepare.

Finding Jesús on Christopher Street

Brendan Fay | Posted 08.08.2012 | Gay Voices
Brendan Fay

So why am I leaving Ireland? I'm leaving to find a place where I can be myself. Sex. It's a huge factor with me. I never read about anybody leaving for sexual reasons. I want to go where I can breathe. I want to breathe. I want to be.

'A Mom's Hug Lasts Long After She Lets Go': To My Mom On Mother's Day

Robyn Harper | Posted 07.12.2012 | Gay Voices
Robyn Harper

It was a brave step, I thought, for my mom. She didn't know how it would turn out. It was a chance she was willing to take. She knew she didn't have it wrong. She had always known. She had been happy to let me come out in my own time, but something encouraged her to make the first move.

Lying About Being A Lesbian? My Ex-Boyfriend's Response

Jincey Lumpkin | Posted 07.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Jincey Lumpkin

I decided to interview my ex-boyfriend for his perspective on my coming out. We always hear what it's like for the gay person, but there are countless ex-girlfriends, ex-boyfriends, ex-spouses, and ex-lovers who are left reeling from the shock of the lies. This is his side of the story.

My Coming-Out Letter To The Grandmother Who Raised Me

Nico Lang | Posted 07.07.2012 | Gay Voices
Nico Lang

My father asked me not to divulge parts of what I am about to tell you. However, at some point, I realized that my own feelings were not being respected in that process, and that I might be disrespecting your feelings. There are many things you should know.

John Celock

GOP Lawmaker Hopes Coming Out Stops 'Don't Say Gay' | John Celock | Posted 05.02.2012 | Politics

Regret over voting against a bill that would have outlawed discrimination based on sexual orientation and fears that the sponsor of the 'Don't Say Gay...

Come Out, Come Out, Whoever You Are

Paul Gorrell, Ph.D. | Posted 06.30.2012 | Gay Voices
Paul Gorrell, Ph.D.

Coming out is not a singular event. We need to do it over and over again in casual conversations, despite the associated risks, and in more important conversations like job interviews. The more we do it, the more we can teach and influence others.

How I Learned To Stop Being Angry At My Sister For Being Anti-Gay

Aly Windsor | Posted 06.24.2012 | Gay Voices
Aly Windsor

I said, "But what if you felt all those things, everything you've just described, but you felt it for someone of the same sex?" My sister's smile fell. She replied, gravely, "The world has fallen, and Satan has turned you."

Coming Out To Hone Your Inner Entrepreneur

Heidi E. Lehmann | Posted 06.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Heidi E. Lehmann

Personal identity is probably the biggest asset any of us has, and when this powerful piece of the equation is anchored, no matter whether you're starting a new business, seeking funding for a project, or being a kick-ass rocker, everything else seems to fall into place a little easier.

British Man Who Claims To Have 'Woken Up Gay' After A Stroke Featured In New Documentary

Posted 04.19.2012 | Gay Voices

Chris Birch, the British man who claims to have "woken up gay" after suffering a stroke, is back in the headlines after becoming the subject of a much...

Coming Out To My Bible Study

Maria Burnham | Posted 04.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Maria Burnham

As scared as I was to come out to my family, it was not nearly as daunting as coming out to my Bible Study. I'd been a member of this particular small group for several months before I moved in with my girlfriend, Jenny.

In 'Defense' Of Waiting To Come Out

Khalid El Khatib | Posted 06.17.2012 | Gay Voices
Khalid El Khatib

At brunch last Sunday one of my closest friends was gushing over a guy he met out. His suitor is smart, handsome, employed, rents to own, and has a shared penchant for pizza at 3 a.m. But there's one problem: Prince Charming came out only a few months ago, at 28.

Coming Out: She Had To Be Willing To Die Before She Could Live

BJ Gallagher | Posted 06.16.2012 | Gay Voices
BJ Gallagher

I know a number of women -- older women, in particular -- who were married to men when they were younger but partnered up with women later in life. I asked Kristin Katalin to share her personal story.