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Coming Out of the Closet

The Worst Thing About Coming Out

John Chagnon | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
John Chagnon

When I first heard about a project called The Worst Thing About Coming Out (WTACO), I had mixed feelings about the concept. The act of coming out entails such an array of emotions that I wasn't sure that focusing on the worst part of it would be a positive approach to the subject.

Dear Fear, I'll Win

Troy Roness | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Troy Roness

I wanted to reflect on the events of the past five years of my life, which masked themselves as "distractions," and send a letter directly to what has kept me from succeeding all along: fear. Fear is one of the biggest obstacles that any of us will ever face.

Neil Patrick Harris: 'I Can Totally Understand' Why Anderson Cooper Waited To Come Out

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Neil Patrick Harris joined HuffPost Live's Josh Zepps for a frank discussion that recalled his own public coming out process in 2006. “I feel in ...

Hey, Gurl, Celebrate Your Out History!

Michael Carosone | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Michael Carosone

It's another fabulous October to celebrate LGBTQ history; coming out of those dark, homophobic, and heterosexist closets; and anti-bullying! I am ending our big gay celebration with these two poems, whic were published in Gay City: Volume 2.

My Neverending Coming-Out Story

Jodi Savitz | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Jodi Savitz

My frustration is this: Even after coming out, feminine lesbians walk through life feeling unacknowledged and delegitimized and are often chided for speaking up about their invisibility.

An Excerpt From Words Never Spoken, My Memoir

Craig Stewart | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Craig Stewart

I thought that all gay men were interested in becoming women and wearing women's clothes and were flamboyant and destined for hell. I wasn't. So from puberty through my college years, I concealed my feelings and innermost thoughts.

A Lesson in Bravery

Elizabeth Denham | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Elizabeth Denham

I spoke to my friend Morgan Reid during a time when I was struggling with worry about what people thought of me. Morgan, at the ripe old age of 20, taught me what it means to be brave.

Being Bi: Coming Out to Both LGBT and Non-LGBT Communities

Anna Aagenes | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Anna Aagenes

What may surprise most of the people whom I come out to is that the most difficult criticism I face for identifying as bisexual comes from the LGBT community itself.

Coming Out Demands Straight Talk From Faith Communities

Rev. Marie Siroky | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Rev. Marie Siroky

My message to faith communities is this: Drop the code and speak boldly and loudly and clearly. Let everyone know that you embrace lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people as they are. Come out to your community as people of faith who accept LGBT individuals and families totally.

'I've Just Never Seen So Many Gays In One Place'

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Biz Hurst for YourTango.com It's an interesting concept for me to date an actual lesbian. I'm 24, and, looking back on my past relationships, I...

Hatred in God's Name

Brad Crelia | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Brad Crelia

I know that boys like the young man who closed his eyes for the last time on that desolate fence and the boy whom my mother worried for years ago will be fine because of mothers like Judy Shepard and mine. Here are my mom's thoughts on her own gay son.

Weeklings!: How to Come Out, and What to Expect (VIDEO)

Louis Virtel | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Louis Virtel

2013-10-11-weeklingscomingoutday2013small.pngI celebrate National Coming Out Day by talking about how you can "come out" even if you've been a declared homosexual for years. Then I offer assistance to those about to come out, and I even emulate their family members' responses.

'Coming Out' for Immigration Reform

Ben de Guzman | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Ben de Guzman

Oct. 11 is National Coming Out Day, and I'm taking the opportunity to come out again. But this time I'm coming out as an advocate for comprehensive immigration reform that provides a path to citizenship for the 11 million undocumented immigrants -- at least 267,00 of whom are LGBT.

Coming Out Against HIV Stigma

Alex Garner | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Alex Garner

To come out about one's HIV status can be a risky prospect. We live in a world of stigma and intolerance, and all too often, coming out is met with anger, castigation and possibly even violence. But people still come out. That's what we do. We come out.

Ready To Come Out? Some Valuable Resources To Keep In Mind

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Coming out of the closet can be an overwhelming, scary and isolating time. Depending on your age, race, location, or even just the moment in time that...

Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are!

Mia Norton | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mia Norton

I have come to realize what coming out entails and have learned that it is different for each and every person, but one thing that I have observed to be true is that the most important step in one's journey is coming out to oneself.

National Coming Out Day: Before You Leave the Closet...

Adam Hunt | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Adam Hunt

I'm in full support of more people coming out of the closet if they're ready, but if you're considering coming out, it's essential to do so after plenty of evaluation and self-reflection.

Celebrating National Coming Out Day With Our Families (PHOTOS)

Leonard Wrigley | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Leonard Wrigley

Typically, part of the experience of being "in the closet" for any length of time is a fear of losing or becoming estranged from family. But it can also involve a fear of not having a family of one's own in the future too. This was one of my biggest concerns growing up gay.

10 Great Reasons Not To Come Out Of The Closet?

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com In honor of National Coming Out Day, I thought I'd stir up the pot and go a little rogue. You see, there are ti...

Coming Out Again: The Politics of Shame, Silence and Story

Hayden Mora | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Hayden Mora

We must not just tell our stories to change the minds of strangers who might do us harm so that one day we'll be safe to walk down our streets; we must keep telling our stories, wholly and completely, to those who love us so that they can hold and support us and sustain us.

The Universal Experience of Coming Out

Dana Beyer | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Dana Beyer

Most human beings are closeted in one form or another. We all have secrets, what are euphemistically called "skeletons in the closet." While in the closet, we lead lives, as Thoreau said, "of quiet desperation." I believe that coming out is so powerful because it is a universal desire.

'Coming Out' or 'Letting In'? Recasting the LGBT Narrative

Robert Espinoza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Robert Espinoza

A colleague suggests that we reframe "coming out" as "letting in," as in letting others into our lives. The "letting in" frame allows for agency over what to disclose, to whom and when. If coming out is a confession, then letting in is a communion. We share our life stories, not just our secrets.

The Places I Have Come Out

J.E. Reich | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
J.E. Reich

On the front porch of my mother's house, coiled on a swing. Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish new year. In the spirit of the high holidays, in the spirit of atonement, I confess my predilections to her. These things weren't supposed to happen to her, she says.

Why Coming Out Is Like 'Relieving Yourself Of Mental Constipation'

Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

By Tiffany McHugh for YourTango.com This Friday marks the 25th anniversary of National Coming Out Day, where The Human Rights Campaign encourages ...

Lessons From Coming Out in 1976

Mark Olmsted | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Mark Olmsted

It rather astounds me that I was as self-affirming as I was at a time when the Stonewall riots were not yet seven years in the past and homosexuality was still unimaginably taboo, at least for my parents' generation.