On November 15th, 2010 I chained myself to the White House fence with 12 other LGBT veterans and civilian activists in protest of the U.S. Military's Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy. I did it because I cared, because I thought that every soldier had the right to serve.
Last summer, two guys raped me. They chose to have their way with me during a compromised state, and it was a traumatic experience made worse by their choices not to use condoms and not to take needed HIV medication. Thus began my disconnection.
I have been distraught sitting back watching athletes answer unnecessary and inappropriate questions around their sexuality due to our lack of true compassion, dignity and love for all. We now exist in a society where our own obsession with others trumps respect for others' personal lives.
In the wake of recent celebrity outings like Anderson Cooper, Jodie Foster and Jason Collins, Robin's post was carefully crafted in the place in which we currently exist, one of progress-but-not-equality. It's proof that we've come a long way but we're not there yet.
States legalizing gay marriage are gaining steamroller momentum. What's to stop it? Not politics or the courts of law. The body of this business is buried deep within ourselves, to continue to step forward into the light of day for all to see.
In place of the usual resolutions -- like losing weight and paying down debt -- I'd like to suggest something else altogether for readers to focus on over the next year: Resolve to work for LGBT equality.
Instead of assuming what you don't know for sure, just ask. If you can't get some kind of identifier, describe it the best way you can. That is, without oversimplification or reduction to a label just for the sake of it.
I agree with the critics. Gays and lesbians SHOULDN'T have to come out. But that's only because we shouldn't be forced into hiding in the first place for having done nothing wrong -- only for committing faithfully to our life partner.
No matter which way you put it on paper, it is related to the same course of logic that was used fifty years ago to ban interracial dating. The rhetoric of "stick to your own kind" vis-a-vis Jewish dating isn't exactly bigotry, but it isn't quite not.