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Coming Out

Neil Patrick Harris: 'I Can Totally Understand' Why Anderson Cooper Waited To Come Out

Posted 10.28.2013 | Gay Voices

Neil Patrick Harris joined HuffPost Live's Josh Zepps for a frank discussion that recalled his own public coming out process in 2006. “I feel in ...

Hey, Gurl, Celebrate Your Out History!

Michael Carosone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Michael Carosone

It's another fabulous October to celebrate LGBTQ history; coming out of those dark, homophobic, and heterosexist closets; and anti-bullying! I am ending our big gay celebration with these two poems, whic were published in Gay City: Volume 2.

My Bisexual Awakening

A.J. Walkley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
A.J. Walkley

Ever since college, when I slowly came to grips with my bisexual identity, I have had a fear in the back of my mind. In every relationship, a little voice has always been there, questioning, "If you commit to one gender, won't you miss the other genders?"

My Neverending Coming-Out Story

Jodi Savitz | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Jodi Savitz

My frustration is this: Even after coming out, feminine lesbians walk through life feeling unacknowledged and delegitimized and are often chided for speaking up about their invisibility.

Why Aren't You Out About Your HIV-Positive Status?

Mark S. King | Posted 12.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark S. King

I know that for some people, staying private about their HIV status is a matter of personal safety. But I believe a lot more people could be open about it, and their only reason for not doing so is fear. That's a powerful emotion, but fear doesn't excuse us for standing by as others are stigmatized.

Are We Post-Sexuality Yet? My Date With a Straight Guy

Dan Heching | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dan Heching

Last week, I was shocked and baffled to find an article, posted on a dating website, no less, insinuating that I'd asked my former co-worker out under the pretense of networking or some such thing. But I was the one who'd been allowed to operate under false pretenses!

Coming Out as Jewish

Dana Beyer | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Beyer

When I speak on coming out and bring in my own experiences, I often leaven the stories with references to Jewish law and tradition. In some respects, not only am I repeatedly coming out to these audiences as trans and gay, but I'm also coming out as Jewish.

When Whispers Become Shouts...(Video)

Craig Stewart | Posted 12.24.2013 | Books
Craig Stewart

The following blog post is adapted from my memoir, Words Never Spoken.

An Excerpt From Words Never Spoken, My Memoir

Craig Stewart | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Craig Stewart

I thought that all gay men were interested in becoming women and wearing women's clothes and were flamboyant and destined for hell. I wasn't. So from puberty through my college years, I concealed my feelings and innermost thoughts.

Coming Out With a Bang -- The Wilde Ten

Malcolm Boyd | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Malcolm Boyd

It was a press conference that appeared on every TV station in the world. The celebrities included: Erica Fitch, "America's Sweetheart," won Wimbledo...

The Understood 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' Policy in the South

Garrison Gibbons | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Garrison Gibbons

In many ways, the LGBTQ community in the South is complicit in this state of affairs. When I look at the LGBTQ people on my own campus, I witness the "don't tell" aspect. They do not want to be open; they do not want to hold hands in Walmart, kiss at the movies, or wear pride shirts to class.

A Lesson in Bravery

Elizabeth Denham | Posted 12.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Elizabeth Denham

I spoke to my friend Morgan Reid during a time when I was struggling with worry about what people thought of me. Morgan, at the ripe old age of 20, taught me what it means to be brave.

How My Experience on My Big Fat Revenge Helped Me Realize I'm Gay

Bo Sellers | Posted 10.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Bo Sellers

A couple of weeks after I had finished filming the show, I was talking with a female friend. She was telling me about her day, but I wasn't hearing a word she was saying because I was staring at her quizzically, trying to decipher what I was feeling. Then it hit me: I was sexually attracted to her.

Being Bi: Coming Out to Both LGBT and Non-LGBT Communities

Anna Aagenes | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Anna Aagenes

What may surprise most of the people whom I come out to is that the most difficult criticism I face for identifying as bisexual comes from the LGBT community itself.

My Job: 'Coming Out'

Justine Valinotti | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Justine Valinotti

Perhaps the most surprising and disturbing part of my "coming out" at work was the sometimes-unconsciously held prejudices about socio-economic class -- and pure and simple looks -- my transition brought to the fore.

Are You A Parent With An LGBT Child? This Is For You

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 10.17.2013 | Gay Voices

The popular advice website "Everyone Is Gay" launched a new online initiative today for the parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth wh...

Coming Out Demands Straight Talk From Faith Communities

Rev. Marie Siroky | Posted 12.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Rev. Marie Siroky

My message to faith communities is this: Drop the code and speak boldly and loudly and clearly. Let everyone know that you embrace lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people as they are. Come out to your community as people of faith who accept LGBT individuals and families totally.

Christopher Rudolph

Greg Berlanti To Introduce Gay Character On Hit CW Show | Christopher Rudolph | Posted 10.15.2013 | Gay Voices

You may not be familiar with his name, but you definitely know Greg Berlanti's work. A pioneer in gay television, Berlanti oversaw many of TV's bi...

'I've Just Never Seen So Many Gays In One Place'

Posted 10.14.2013 | Gay Voices

By Biz Hurst for It's an interesting concept for me to date an actual lesbian. I'm 24, and, looking back on my past relationships, I...

Coming Out in a Muslim Family

Rolla Selbak | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Rolla Selbak

There's this misconception that just because I seem to have it together, or have enjoyed a certain amount of success, that being loud and proud came easy. It did not.

Hatred in God's Name

Brad Crelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Brad Crelia

I know that boys like the young man who closed his eyes for the last time on that desolate fence and the boy whom my mother worried for years ago will be fine because of mothers like Judy Shepard and mine. Here are my mom's thoughts on her own gay son.

Weeklings!: How to Come Out, and What to Expect (VIDEO)

Louis Virtel | Posted 12.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Louis Virtel

2013-10-11-weeklingscomingoutday2013small.pngI celebrate National Coming Out Day by talking about how you can "come out" even if you've been a declared homosexual for years. Then I offer assistance to those about to come out, and I even emulate their family members' responses.

'Coming Out' for Immigration Reform

Ben de Guzman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Ben de Guzman

Oct. 11 is National Coming Out Day, and I'm taking the opportunity to come out again. But this time I'm coming out as an advocate for comprehensive immigration reform that provides a path to citizenship for the 11 million undocumented immigrants -- at least 267,00 of whom are LGBT.

Coming Out Against HIV Stigma

Alex Garner | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Alex Garner

To come out about one's HIV status can be a risky prospect. We live in a world of stigma and intolerance, and all too often, coming out is met with anger, castigation and possibly even violence. But people still come out. That's what we do. We come out.

Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are!

Mia Norton | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Mia Norton

I have come to realize what coming out entails and have learned that it is different for each and every person, but one thing that I have observed to be true is that the most important step in one's journey is coming out to oneself.