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Defending Jodie Foster: Give Us A Break! We're 50!

William Dameron | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
William Dameron

For the first part of our lives, homosexuality was defined as a mental disorder. We watched AIDS devastate an entire population and listened to "respected" experts denigrate gays. Jodie, I and other late bloomers are slightly damaged, but we're doing the best we can. Give us a break.

Let's Cut Jodie Foster Some Slack

Justin Hernandez | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Justin Hernandez

We assume that public figures should automatically use the platform that comes with their celebrity status. We believe that they owe it to us to utilize their voices for agendas that we might share, and we get disappointed and angry when they don't. It's easy to forget that they are human.

Jodie Foster, You Are A Classy Lady

Peter D. Rosenstein | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Peter D. Rosenstein

Yes, she came out in a bigger way than ever before, but at the same time this was about her, not our community. It was her way of doing it, not ours. The award she accepted was for her career achievements, not for our community.

Is There Room for Diversity in LGBTQ?

Gregory G. Allen | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Gregory G. Allen

Each of us has our own story of dealing with shame, fear, and betrayal for being who we are. Each of us carries scars of wounds we've received for opening that closet door. No one can tell you how to deal with that past. Nor should anyone tell you how to come out of that closet.

Did 'Alias' Star Just Come Out?

Posted 04.08.2013 | Gay Voices

Actor Victor Garber has addressed his same-sex partner in a new interview, but whether the "Deception" star's remarks constitute his official coming o...

The Not-So-Unbearable Loneliness of Being Jodie Foster

Sandip Roy | Posted 03.17.2013 | Gay Voices
Sandip Roy

Jodie Foster's version of coming out seems almost anachronistic, a sort of misty-eyed valentine to the way things were. But it was a different kind of coming out, ground-breaking in its own way.

Jodie Foster And The Queer Line Between Public And Private

Nathaniel Frank | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Nathaniel Frank

What seems to draw many gay people to celebrity culture is the skill that both gays and celebrities must cultivate to navigate between privacy and disclosure under the watchful eye of strangers. And if there's one thing LGBT people should agree on, it's the importance of compassion.

Huff Post Gay Voices' Readers React To Jodie Foster's Speech

Posted 01.14.2013 | Gay Voices

Last night, at the Golden Globe awards, Jodie Foster made quite a stir with her heartfelt coming out speech and all day we've seen many of our communi...

What Jodie Foster Should Have Said

Mark Olmsted | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark Olmsted

"I'm proud of my family. I'm not ashamed of any relationship I've ever had, even the mistakes. And if I'd gotten the 'gay' word out of the way, I probably could have helped us get where we are today a little faster. So I am sorry for being late to the party."

Why Jodie Foster's Golden Globes Speech Matters

Leah McElrath | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Leah McElrath

Ms. Foster's speech was one given by a whole, complex human being -- a mother, a co-parent, an ex-wife, a daughter, a caregiver, a middle-aged adult -- not a one-dimensional poster child for any particular community. If people expected that from her, then that's their problem, not hers.

What Jodie Foster's Coming Out Means In 2013

Michelangelo Signorile | Posted 03.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Michelangelo Signorile

Whatever you thought of last night, you'd have to agree that it was another indication of how it's becoming harder and harder for anyone in public life to have any real credibility and still be living in the closet.

A Mother’s Final Gift

Jon Derek Croteau, Ed.D. | Posted 03.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Jon Derek Croteau, Ed.D.

At first I'd thought my mom died on my birthday to bring my father and me together. Since then I've realized that her gift was an opportunity to finally find the fortitude and the wisdom to do what she never could. So I left him behind. And that's where he remains: behind me.

WATCH: Straight Man Stays Married To His Lesbian Wife

Posted 03.12.2013 | Gay Voices

Carlos and Sara had been married for 23 years when she came out as a lesbian. For many people, news like that would mean the end of their relations...

Coming Out to the Girl With the Blue Volvo: A Lesson in Living an Authentic Life

Patrick Wallace | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Patrick Wallace

What seemed like life-saving road trips at the time ultimately gave me the courage to turn to Leigh one night and tell her a story -- my first story -- about a guy that I "liked" rather than the standard story about guys who I thought were "cool."

Like Me

Jess Wilson | Posted 03.10.2013 | Gay Voices
Jess Wilson

I married a wonderful man. I had babies. I love him dearly, and I adore my life. To all the world I am a straight woman. I live with the privilege of that assumption. And by allowing that assumption to stand, I also allow ignorance to stand. Not anymore.

LOOK: 20 Of Our Favorite Anderson Cooper Moments Since He Came Out

The Huffington Post | JR Tungol | Posted 01.05.2013 | Gay Voices

Anderson Cooper hosted CNN's New Year's Eve celebration with Kathy Griffin on Tuesday and there was no shortage of hilarious (and controversial) momen...

The 20th Anniversary Of A New Year's Resolution

Cindy Abel | Posted 03.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Cindy Abel

In 1993 I made my longest-lasting new year's resolution: Never again would I lie about my orientation unless it put me or those around me in physical danger. "I'll pump gas for a living and live in a shack if I have to," I thought, imagining the worst-case scenario, "but I'll live in truth."

The Business of (Not) Being Gay in America

Jake Sasseville | Posted 03.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Jake Sasseville

When I was 21 years old, I became the youngest late night talk show host in television history on ABC after Jimmy Kimmel Live! I could've really made a mark and been the first openly gay late night talk show host in television history. But I was still buried deep in the closet.

Lessons In Lesbian Sex

Chana Wilson | Posted 03.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Chana Wilson

One summer in the early '60s at Camp Birch Ridge, when I was 12 or 13, I finally worked up the nerve to ask Paddles, my favorite counselor, the question that had been brewing in me: "How do lesbians have sex?"

Are Closeted Bisexuals The Reason For Bi Invisibility?

A.J. Walkley | Posted 02.27.2013 | Gay Voices
A.J. Walkley

It's almost a "chicken or the egg" question: Does society and the LGBT community at large need to become more accepting before bisexuals come out en masse, or do bisexuals need to come out before more acceptance is possible?

LOOK: Most Compelling LGBT People Of 2012

The Huffington Post | JR Tungol | Posted 12.27.2012 | Gay Voices

This year was full of historic moments for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community. From huge political victories to the continuou...

Married To a Man and In Love With a Woman

Joanne Fleisher | Posted 02.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Joanne Fleisher

It was 1979, and I'm not even sure I knew that a "straight" woman could fall in love with another woman. I thought I was the only married woman facing this kind of awakening. I was falling in love with a woman, but I didn't feel like a lesbian.

LOOK: 51 Of The Biggest LGBT Stories Of 2012

The Huffington Post | JR Tungol | Posted 12.24.2012 | Gay Voices

It was the best of times... It was the worst of times... But no matter how you look at it, 2012 will be remembered as one of the most historic years y...

Homo For The Holidays: An 8-Point Survival Guide

Carl Sandler | Posted 02.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Carl Sandler

For many gay people, spending the holidays with their families is an uncomfortable, nerve-wracking experience that means repressing their true selves to avoid conflict, taking a step backward on the path to self-acceptance they fought so hard to forge.

WATCH: Comedian Mike Kelton Talks Coming Out At 15

Marti Gould Cummings | Posted 02.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Marti Gould Cummings