We don't see how they cope with the realities of life. We don't see how they adjust to living together or what happens after the wedding and the honeymoon. Most of all, we don't see how couples stay together, year after year, through raising kids, job losses, ill health, in laws and all the other daily things that make up a life.
"Deal breakers" are those behaviors or conditions that one partner is unable or unwilling to tolerate in a relationship. Because "tolerance" is a relative term and subject to everyone's unique capacity to accept varying degrees of distress or discomfort, there is no generic, one-size-fits-all answer to this question.
There are several types of men who have difficulty committing and while they vary in intensity, they all have common fears and similar characteristics with different ways of expressing their phobias. No matter what type the Commitment Phobe may be, their behaviors are equally devastating to the women who love them.
A recent article in The New York Times described the unbelievable lives of women who marry rich men and live in the Upper East Side in New York City. The author lets her pinky finger down long enough to write torrid tales of year-end bonuses paid to the women for excelling at their wifely duties. I missed that memo and married for love.
Often, we overlook flaws because we fall in love with a person. This is admirable, but we also have to recognize the principles that mold a partner into a soulmate -- those elements that fortify a loving bond for the long run. Consider these seven qualities as essential to fostering an incredible, lifelong partnership...