Active, conscious, wholehearted listening isn't easy. It demands patience, compassion, sustained concentration, and a willingness to set aside ego, but committing to this level of listening opens the floodgates for powerful communication.
There's no time like the present to begin transforming your relationship with your daughter. Communication is the key and we're laying the foundation today for a more fulfilling tomorrow. It's easy to accomplish and a great way to kick off the summer.
If we can break free from obligation and expectation, imagine the freedom we could feel. Relationships can improve as long as we continue to speak our truth, not just to be heard, but to strengthen our connections and remember how much our words matter.
This isn't about not holding myself accountable for my actions; it's about no longer reflexively blurting out an apology I don't really owe. It's about changing my default setting from unnecessary guilt.
The ways in which Pope Francis has made the Church change are very simple and effective. Best of all, they're entirely replicable by CEOs wanting to effect change in their organizations. CEOs can modify and implement themselves.
Couples that compromise often feel resentful and their marriage does not improve despite "resolving" the issue. True change occurs when the relationship is strengthened to the point where both sides want to budge because they see the inherent worth in the other and their viewpoint.
The problem is not so much that we are hearing different things in the same words, but the fact that we believe that we are meaning the same thing. This misunderstanding causes many of the problems that we run into in our relationships and indeed every form of human interaction.
Recently, I texted the simple affirmation "sure" as a rushed response to an invitation or suggested social event someone had extended to me. Thinking my response was a clear and appropriate one, I was surprised, confused and yes a bit annoyed by the onslaught of negative comments that followed.
One of the biggest challenges for a woman in any relationship, particularly when she has a child with special needs, is the expectation that your partner is going to automatically do what you think he should be doing.
If you want to make sure that what you are saying is communicated correctly, pick up the phone. And in today's dating world, if you want to make someone feel special, try speaking to them instead of sending them a text.
While raising a child with special needs, when it comes to keeping your relationship together and being in love, one of the most important insights is to recognize how stressful it is and how the stress can erode the best of relationships.
To forgive ourselves is no easy task. We have to rediscover our innocence. If we have the opportunity, as children, to have parents who can say that they are sorry for things, then we learn to forgive them and forgive ourselves.