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Dear World, Please Stop Comparing My Twin Daughters

Rachel Brehm | Posted 10.03.2015 | Fifty
Rachel Brehm

Who's bigger? Who's taller? Who's harder to handle? Who crawled first? Who's your favorite (OK, that one was from an adorable seven-year-old)? These are all common questions from the people that surround me. At just 14-months-old, these questions and comparisons are harmless to the girls. With two side by side, we can't help but compare them.

6 Ways to Increase Your Joy!

Amanda Gore | Posted 07.22.2015 | Healthy Living
Amanda Gore

Instead, find gratitude for everything you have and everyone in your life. And, everything you don't have -- there is a reason for it!

Should You Compare Yourself to Others?

Gregory Ciotti | Posted 06.01.2015 | Business
Gregory Ciotti

Setting standards that you must replicate is impossible--results are fluid and do different things for different people. The goal of comparison is merely to raise the bar that keeps you moving forward.

A Mindful Look At Gratitude

Ellen Langer | Posted 05.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Ellen Langer

When we are grateful that we are better off then someone else, we are setting ourselves up for future misery should their problem become ours.

The Number One Mistake Even Good Moms Make

Heather Creekmore | Posted 03.29.2015 | Parents
Heather Creekmore

We don't have to be perfect moms. There's no such thing. And, ironically, even if there was, I don't think we'd like being her as much as we think we would. No one actually likes a perfect woman, anyway.

When Lacking a Partner Turns Your White Christmas Blue: How to Celebrate Instead of Hibernate

Z Zoccolante | Posted 02.10.2015 | Healthy Living
Z Zoccolante

The pain of not having a significant other over the holidays can feel like a deep purple bruise. The pain of a breakup can feel like a gaping wound you're trying to close with a Band-Aid.

The Case For Taking A Facebook Break

Jock Gilchrist | Posted 02.09.2015 | Healthy Living
Jock Gilchrist

We are, of course, social creatures. We need other people. When our social nature expresses itself virtually, we have the option of controlling exactly what we look like and what words we use. We have the ability to create a self-advertisement that sells us well.

Little Cracks

Nicole Scott | Posted 01.14.2015 | Parents
Nicole Scott

We see people's highlight reels and think they have it easy. The mom who lost 50+ pounds and looks amazing; it had to be easy. The mom who seems to have it all together, who has been told, parenting just comes naturally to you. The business owner who seems to have it all.

3 Steps To Make Jealousy Work To Your Advantage

Mercedes Maidana | Posted 12.17.2014 | Women
Mercedes Maidana

Do you feel jealous of someone else's career success? We are all human. We all have emotions that control us from time to time, and sometimes one of those emotions is a big ball of jealousy!

Prague vs. Amsterdam (PHOTOS)

Olena Kagui | Posted 12.14.2014 | Travel
Olena Kagui

After living in Prague my whole life and visiting Amsterdam for over a week I made a few interesting comparisons when it comes to cleanliness, transportation and alcohol.

Are You Stuck in This Trap?

Jen Picicci | Posted 11.23.2014 | Women
Jen Picicci

If reading women's magazines always makes you feel like you have to go on a diet, take a break from them. If a particular person's Facebook feed is making you feel out of shape and depressed, unfriend them or stop reading their stuff.

5 Ways to Overcome Overachievement Disorder

Amanda Smear Baudier | Posted 11.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Amanda Smear Baudier

We all have a unique purpose to unfold in this lifetime and the sooner we stop trying to one up one another, the sooner we'll find the path to that which will truly bring us joy.

Is Envy Controlling Your Life?

Kristen Houghton | Posted 10.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristen Houghton

Being satisfied with what you have now does not make you complacent and "stuck" with what you have in your current life. Let that little spark of envy work for you not against you. Let it energize, not exhaust you. Look around and make needed or wanted changes to your life.

Feel Like You'll Never Be As Good As That Person?

Natalie MacNeil | Posted 08.24.2014 | Women
Natalie MacNeil

Ever fixate on someone else's success to the point that you think they shine the "brightest," just like the North Star? (But guess what? The North Star isn't the brightest star in the sky, not even close!) Their "star" doesn't shine any brighter than yours!

Beware: To Compare May Lead to Despair

Andrea Wachter | Posted 07.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

In my psychotherapy practice, I commonly hear clients comparing themselves to others and usually not coming out too favorably. I often hear statements...

How To Get Over Facebook Envy

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 03.18.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Earle McLeod

Humans are called the "comparing creatures." Comparing ourselves to others is how we make sense of life. Comparisons can inspire us to grow and change. Comparisons can also provide helpful examples of what we don't want to be. But comparisons without context don't tell the full story.

Lindsay Henry: The Moment I Knew I Had to Put My Phone Down

Lindsay Henry | Posted 03.09.2014 | Women
Lindsay Henry

Snap, snap, snap. Head goes back down towards the phone. I see the girls on their phones, my own eyes locked on the edit button of my screen. Suddenly, it hits me. I am missing this. And so are these girls. We are missing this.

The Important Connection That Will Help You Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Elizabeth McKenzie | Posted 03.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Elizabeth McKenzie

The good news is, it's actually not that hard: once you connect to your center, there is literally no room for comparison. It doesn't exist. All there is is you and your truth. In fact, you are your truth. And that's a pretty amazing way to live.

The Thing I Do Regularly That You're 'Not Supposed to Do'

Stephenie Zamora | Posted 11.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Stephenie Zamora

No matter how small or little your progress is, you absolutely must acknowledge all of it. Celebrating the little wins, accomplishments, shifts and gains is so important to building a life you love.

The Game I Want to Quit

Christine Organ | Posted 08.26.2013 | Parents
Christine Organ

I want to enjoy swimming with my kids and proudly display photos of our family at the beach without worrying about whether I look three-months pregnant or if other people will notice my cellulite-covered thighs.

Who Said You Should Never Compare Children?

Howard J. Bennett, M.D. | Posted 08.04.2013 | Parents
Howard J. Bennett, M.D.

Not only do we compare our children to each other, but we also compare them to other people's children. Why? Because it's impossible not to.

The Discovery of Meaning and the Search for Purpose

Mousa Alshanteer | Posted 05.19.2013 | College
Mousa Alshanteer

We all have our ups and downs, make mistakes, and have regrets, but rather than succumbing to unnecessary comparisons and self-absorption, we ought to realize that our unique differences serve to further the discovery of our purpose, whether we know it or not.

The Danger In Comparing Yourself To Others

Grown And Flown | Posted 05.18.2013 | Fifty
Grown And Flown

I am over 50 and I should know better. I should know that life isn't always what it seems, that everyone is just doing their best and that perfect is a dangerous fantasy. But somehow, deep, deep into adulthood, I still hold on to childish dreams.

Compare and Despair

Liana Gergely | Posted 03.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Liana Gergely

How do you take off the "lack glasses" that are keeping you from the abundance of your own life? Keep the focus on you and practice gratitude. It's not about going into a comparison and being grateful because what you have is better than what the other person has.

One Key To Happiness: Story-Busting

Andrea Wachter | Posted 02.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

When we acknowledge that everyone experiences pain, that every person struggles with difficult issues, and that most everyone is making up stories too, we can let go of comparing and contrasting and simply see us as all in this together.