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The Myth of 'I Should Have Done Better'

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 09.26.2016 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

"When we know better, we do better." -- Maya Angelou Linda: I'm from the school of thought that we are all doing the best we can with the level of co...

How To Make Sure That Trumpism Never Returns

Deepak Chopra | Posted 08.15.2016 | Politics
Read More: By Deepak Chopra, MD the Problem Isn't Donald Trump but Trumpism—Many Commentators Feel Safe Enough to Utter These Words. What Made Them Feel Unsafe Over the Past Year, Despite the Toxic Extremism That Trump the Man Represented, Was Timidity. Someone Posing as a Strong Man, Capable of Viciously Demolishing His Political Enemies, Posed a Potential Threat to Anyone Who Spoke Out Against Him. but Now More People Have Found a Way, Even a Growing Handful of Republican Politicians, To Denounce Him.   There's a Collective Sigh of Relief That Trump Has Become His Own Worst Enemy, But Relief Isn't the Same as Feeling Safe, Much Less Immune. America Hasn't Seen the Last of Trumpism Until Remedies Against Its Return Are Undertaken Seriously. as a Physician Sees It, We Are Past the Prevention Stage, Past the First Signs of Disorder, And Well Into Rampant Symptoms That Threaten a Full-Blown Outbreak. in a Word, Trumpism Has Become a Persistent Virus, And Although It Fuels a Sense of Self-Righteousness to Blame the Long Line of Republican Presidents Going Back to Nixon Who Planted the Seeds of Trumpism, We Can't Afford That Luxury.   to Compress Trumpism Into Its Essential Ingredients, They Are Actually a Batch of Stubborn Illusions That Have Been Turned Into a Belief System, As Follows:   — the Illusion That Anyone "Not Like US" Is Inferior, Bad, Lazy, And Dangerous. From This Illusion Springs a Belief in US-Versus-Them Thinking. — the Illusion of Racial Superiority. From This Illusion Springs Overt and Covert Racism. — the Illusion of Absolute Patriotism, Or "My Country Right or Wrong." From This Illusion Springs Xenophobia. — the Illusion That Violence Works. From This Illusion Springs a Belief That War Accomplishes More Good Things Than Bad. — the Illusion of Egotism. From This Illusion Springs the B, Me, And Mine" Actually Count.   the List Could Go On, And There Are Commentators Who Focus on Such Things as Sexism, Income Inequality, Immigration, And Fear of Globalism. Trumpism Has Many Arms, No Doubt. but I Think It Is Best Viewed as a Psychological State That Permits the Welling Up of Our Darkest Impulses. Until the Country's Collective Psychology Stops Being Tainted by Fear, Anger, And Resentment, Trumpism Will Continue on the Metastasized Negativity That the Far Right Cannot Survive Without.   President Obama Followed the Course of Being the Adult in the Room, Which Hillary Clinton Is Continuing. but if We Consider the 16 Other Republican Candidates for President That Didn't Get Nominated, Each Exhibits Some Form of Trumpism-Lite. in Private, Even a Gentlemanly Mitt Romney, Assuming He Wasn't Being Taped, Expressed an Appalling Disdain for the Average American. the Current Crop of Right-Wing Candidates Fester in a Party Where the Majority of Republicans Believe That Obama Is a Practicing Muslim.   This Implies That Being the Adult in the Room Is Too P, And Activism Begins With Each of US Examining Our Own Attitudes and Beliefs.   — We Must Respond to Toxic Emotions With Rational Solutions. — We Must Be Brave About Standing Up and Speaking Our Truth. — We Must Stop Secretly Agreeing in the Bla, But in Our Own Hearts as Well.   I Know That These Sound Like Moralistic Steps, But as David Brooks Has Been Pointing Out in the New York Times, The Basic Objection to Trump Is a Moral One, And Our Society Has Become Timid, Self-Conscious, Embarrassed, Or Indifferent to Public Morality. as a Result, So-Called "Conservative Values" Have Taken US Through the Looking Glass Into a Landscape Where the Worst Among US Cloak Themselves as the Best and Most Moral.   It Seems Set in Stone That Elected Officials on the Local, State, And Congressional Level Will Refuse to Budge From Toxic Positions That Get Voters to Turn Out.  but This Is Largely Because the Bad Have Driven Out the Good. Moderate and Progressive Candidates Shun the Opportunity to Run for Office Because of Their Dist, As Trump Demonstrates, Uses Scorched-Earth Tactics as a Normal Way of Conducting Politics. but There Is No Other Remedy Other Than Good People Stepping Up Once More.   What's Needed in the End Isn't a Moral Crusade, Which Only Inflames the Opposition to More Intense Levels of Abuse, As Witness Trump's Completely Unpunished Habit of Doubling Down on His Vitriolic Rhetoric. Morality Returns Naturally When People Have Expanded Awareness. We Are Living in an Era Where Outside Threats, Real or Imaginary, Have Caused Our Collective Consciousness to Contract. if This Wasn't So, There Would Be No Secret Trump Admirers Falling for the Illusion That All We Need Is a Strong Male to Fix This Mess. Expanded Consciousness Begins at Home. Each of US Must Find the Core in Ourselves Where Being Truthful, Strong, Tolerant, Compassionate, And at Peace Comes Naturally. This Level Exists in Everyone, And When We Arrive There, The Toxic Illusions of Trumpism Have No More Power Over US. Deepak Chopra MD, Facp, Founder of the Chopra Foundation and Co-Founder of the Chopra Center for Wellbeing, Is a World-Renowned Pioneer in Integrative Medicine and Personal Transformation, And Is Board Certified in Internal Medicine, Endocrinology and Metabolism.  He Is a Fellow of the American College of Physicians and a Member of the American Association of Clinical Endocrinologists. the World Post and the Huffington Post Global Internet Survey Ranked Chopra #17 Influential Thinker, Including Numerous New York Times Bestsellers. His Latest Books Are , Politics News
Deepak Chopra

The problem isn't Donald Trump but Trumpism -- many commentators feel safe enough to utter these words. What made them feel unsafe over the past year, despite the toxic extremism that Trump the man represented, was timidity.

Understanding the Problem

Kat Karpoff | Posted 04.08.2017 | Women
Kat Karpoff

This is not a male vs. female fight on who's better and who's worse, or who's right or who's wrong. It's that WE ARE EQUAL. And that is not reflected in our industry. I'm going to say it again.

Timeless... at 103...

Debbie Davis | Posted 10.16.2016 | Parents
Debbie Davis

With a little self-indulgence, I write a salute to Dad, who would be 103 today, Oct. 16, 2015, had he lived past age 82.

Compassionate Bedrooms and Vegan Living

Dylan Kendall | Posted 07.15.2016 | HuffPost Home
Dylan Kendall

The bedroom is the heart of our home, our most intimate space. The bedroom is the room that recharges us, holds our secrets, and provides refuge. No piece of furniture is as important as our bed, the bedroom's centerpiece. For me, a comfortable bed is key to my bedroom and comfortable for me means soft and warm.

Beautiful Part 2

Tami Shaikh | Posted 09.15.2014 | Style
Tami Shaikh

A few days ago, I wrote an article on what I thought made someone beautiful. It got me thinking about what others felt about the concept of beauty.

Be Real and Compassionate About Money

Mike Robbins | Posted 07.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

Money is one of the most emotionally charged issues we contend with, especially these days. Many of us have some real baggage about money that we bring with us into our relationships, our work, and most aspects of our lives.

What's Great About Kids Today

Colleen Turner | Posted 07.14.2014 | Fifty
Colleen Turner

Bullying behaviors do not last long when a child's peer group appreciates the importance of respecting themselves and others

If You Don't Want Her to Be a Nag, Treat Her Like a Thoroughbred

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 06.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Deep, compassionate, committed listening is what breaks the dark spell. Out of the emotional connection, understanding, a newfound cooperation, more trust, peace of mind, and ease is present in the relationship and in your life in general.

The Sacred Art of Listening -- Nourishing Loving Relationships

Tara Brach | Posted 03.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

Whether it's the communicating between different tribes or religions, ethnicities, racial groups or different generations, we need to listen. The more we understand, the less we fear -- the less we fear, the more we trust and the more we trust, the more love can flow.

The Only 2014 Resolution You'll Need... the One That Changes Everything

Steve McSwain | Posted 02.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Steve McSwain

William "Bill" Butler and Dr. Steve McSwain This is the season for New Year's resolutions. Actually, however, there is only one resolution you c...

Why I Am Grateful for Unfortunate Events

Shawnee McPhail | Posted 02.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Shawnee McPhail

Thank you, broken radiator and thermostat, for giving me a feeling of gratitude, and a little bit of terror and indigestion, in my innards.

Gift to the Soul: The Space of Presence

Tara Brach | Posted 02.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

For many of us this is a season when it feels that we are going faster and faster. Everything's racing, through school semesters, wrapping up work com...

Lessons From Kayaking: Finding a Way to Be With Fear

Tara Brach | Posted 01.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

The key to being with fear is in contacting what is here now, rather than trying to push it away. Here's a story from the river that helps us understand that. In kayaking, you learn about what is called a keeper hole.

9 Steps To Self-Acceptance

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Sharing love is the most fulfilling experience in life, but you need to be filled with love in order to have love to share. Learning to love yourself is what fills you with love.

Absolute Cooperation With the Inevitable

Tara Brach | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

Aligning with what is here is a way of practicing presence. It allows us to respond to our world with creativity and compassion.

The Transforming Power of Mindful Prayer

Tara Brach | Posted 11.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

When the pain is deep, the more fully we touch it, the more fully we release ourselves prayerfully into boundless, compassionate presence.

7 Ways To Find Inner (And Real) Happiness

Ed and Deb Shapiro | Posted 11.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Ed and Deb Shapiro

Every time we see a giggling baby or young child we're reminded that we are all born with this natural and innate sense of happiness, that it is actually our birthright. We learn about suffering or unhappiness as we grow older, more externalized, and as circumstances change.

Powerful Questions That Can Transform Any Situation

Preston Smiles | Posted 09.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Preston Smiles

We are often so wrapped up in our own so-called "problems" that we fail to see the constant opportunity for growth in every situation.

The Coolest Meditator In The World

Ed and Deb Shapiro | Posted 09.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Ed and Deb Shapiro

When we met with the Dalai Lama he was standing on his veranda overlooking the beautiful Himalayan Mountain range, smiling and waving for us to come. We went to bow as is the tradition, but he lifted us, took our hands, and said: "We are all equal here."

Compassion

Tara Brach | Posted 08.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

It doesn't matter what age we are, if we're in these bodies and on planet Earth, it's not easy. That doesn't mean that we're always slaving away or that life is bad, it just means life can be really challenging at times.

Meditate Your Way Through Anger

Ed and Deb Shapiro | Posted 06.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Ed and Deb Shapiro

Trying to eradicate anger is like trying to box with our own shadow: It doesn't work. Getting rid of it implies either expressing it and creating untold emotional damage, denying its existence, or repressing it until it erupts at a later time.

Wheelchair Wisdom: Living in God's Holy Thoughts (Light)

Linda Noble Topf | Posted 03.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Noble Topf

Grace is always extended, something that becomes clearer each time I remind myself that healing is an ongoing process and never a final destination.

On Love And Compassion: What Keeps Us Going In The Times We Lose Faith

Jeff Cannon | Posted 02.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Jeff Cannon

It keeps me hopeful that the worst of times will not be in vain if we can just learn from them to ensure they never happen again, and to ensure we continue to do what is needed to help all humans be just that -- human.

A Neural Namaste in Nearly Real Time

Pavel Somov, Ph.D. | Posted 02.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Pavel Somov, Ph.D.

There is a long history here that primes this moment -- a history of learning to identify and relate with life's essence regardless of its form. I haven't always been this sentimentally attuned.