I love Why - it's my go to question. I'm a professional mediator - so by nature, and by training, my first question is always, "why?" Why do you want that? Why do you think that? Why do you think they think that? Why do you think they did that and want that? And, why on God's green earth would they say that?
It takes under thirty steps to get from my car to my office building door - fifteen seconds from one place to the other. Even so, during this morning's "walk," I couldn't avoid being confronted with the kind of behavior that inadvertently screws up workplace cultures and renders managers and their groups ineffective.
There are many things we should and should not be doing in order to have strong personal relationships. There are some common themes and behaviors that many couples seem to do that fray the relationship, and sometimes cause irreparable harm. If you are able to think about them, and start to avoid them, your relationship will be stronger for it, and you will feel more connected as a couple.
I am of the opinion that the more clarity and definition you have in your co-parenting plan the better. For many of you, the co-parenting plan will be put away in a drawer and rarely, if ever, looked at again. For all of you though, thinking these issues through and really taking them seriously will make a world of difference, and may even help you attain the closure you desperately want and need.