And yet, engaging in the dialogue that can ensue from these questions can be the very thing that we need to do in order to support the health and vitality of our relationship and to minimize the likelihood of being "broadsided" by some very unsettling revelations further down the road.
So to my friend who quit her favorite salon, and my friend who drives an hour out of her way and my friend who now colors her hair at home, STOP! I know it's uncomfortable, but of all our issues, hair should be taken off the list
Few leaders can avoid confrontation. There are simply too many items and employees that require oversight and guidance. The likelihood is very high that every leader will need to address numerous areas of concern within her organization at various points.
In the real world people disagree, get frustrated and even fight. Conflict is a normal and natural part of every meaningful life. So why are so many of us afraid of confrontation? Maybe it's because we never learned healthy ways to have Constructive Conflict.
It's uncomfortable. It feels like it comes out of nowhere. But sooner or later, if you're living in an even moderately diverse environment, you're going to get called out. And how you respond is going to be really important.
My instinct was to defend and protect my cub, to nip the lies in the bud and reinforce them with truth. However, I realized that I'd been granted a rare glimpse into my child's daily life -- and that 99% of these situations will take place when I'm not around.
All my photos of my son are from the side, in part because my camera is really slow, and in part because my son will simply not look at me when I ask him to. It's not that he won't look at a camera. It's that he won't look at my camera.
I didn't want to dodge the tangle of bodies that had a good part of the sidewalk blocked. So I continued past the crowd of people. Then out of the blue, I heard a male voice say, 'Do you have a staring problem?'
It's hard to quantify what the prosecution gained by introducing Zimmerman's statements. To be sure, the prosecution was able to point out several discrepancies in Zimmerman's accounts, but these were really minor inconsistencies.
One of the most important skills we learn as girls is the ability to ask without knowing the outcome: to apply for an opportunity we might not get, to raise our hand even if we don't know the right answer, to ask for what we want even if the answer will surely be no.
It's helpful to know that what we say to someone else, might not be what we would want said to us, and that how we talk to ourselves can be how we talk to others, which might not be as mindful as it can be.
Our least developed skill is the ability to confront each other face to face, say what is in our hearts and minds, and at the same time build and strengthen our relationships. Confrontation is something we tend to avoid.