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How I Stopped My Fear Addiction

Brian Whetten | Posted 01.27.2016 | Healthy Living
Brian Whetten

I invite you to turn this into a practice: love your fears, focus on the positive, take a leap, connect to some of the many things you have to be grateful for - and watch how your life changes as you do.

Yes Yes Hell No! How to Develop Total Trust in Your Ability to Make Great Decisions

Brian Whetten | Posted 01.06.2016 | Healthy Living
Brian Whetten

How do you make decisions? Do you know? It may be the single most important choice you make. It's the master decision which determines all the ot...

How To Help Others Manage Their Emotions (11.7)

Fred Kofman | Posted 12.09.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Someone may be very upset with you, but you don't have to escalate the conflict. You can take responsibility for the perception you triggered in the other and do your best to maintain equanimity.

Neither Explosion or Repression: Conscious Expression (11.6)

Fred Kofman | Posted 12.08.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Regulating your emotions involves conscious expression. To channel emotional energy, you need to recognize it, embrace it, and understand its origins. You also need to acknowledge its impulses, but without surrendering to them.

Create Your Ideal Conscious Life

J V Crum III | Posted 11.24.2015 | GPS for the Soul
J V Crum III

Many people are so busy worrying about what is happening in their lives, that they never actually sit down and define what it is that they WANT mos...

When You Lose Your Breath You Lose Your Head (11.6)

Fred Kofman | Posted 12.08.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

The peaceful, balanced, and kind Suku totally lost it. He got so pissed off that he went into some sort of angry trance. When he woke up there were a lot of casualties around him. Almost anything he could have done would have been better. But in that moment, he was hijacked by his emotions.

Don't Forget To Celebrate

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.20.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Joy, enthusiasm, gratitude and pride are pleasurable emotions. Each of them also "asks" you to take appropriate action. If you don't pay these emotional debts you run the risk of shunning these emotions from your life.

The Long-Term Failure of Short-Term Thinking

FIXCapitalism | Posted 11.19.2015 | Business

Businesses have used a range of strategies to hold down wage growth -- outsourcing, subcontracting, avoiding union organizing and more. What's more, an "easy hire, easy fire" policy has led to diminished worker productivity and innovation.

Guilt Is Healthy, Shame Is Not (11.4)

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.18.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

"Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they're big, flashing signs that something needs...

Every Emotion Is a Love Story (11.3)

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.18.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

"The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain." Daniel Goleman In my last post we covered the first three of the...

Every Emotion Is Useful If You Know What To Do With It (11.2)

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.18.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

There's no such thing as bad or unreasonable emotions. What is possible is that the thoughts at the root of an emotion are inaccurate, unfounded or destructive. Before you can analyze these thoughts, you need to first open the cocoon of the emotion with gentleness, never with reproach.

You Can't Be Rational If You Are Not Emotional (11.1)

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.09.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

You can't be rational if you are too emotional. But you can't be rational if you are not emotional. When you are too emotional, you don't want to do what you know is best. When you are too emotional, you don't want to use the techniques you know will make things better.

What Would a Bodhisattva Do? (10.6)

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.09.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

From the fourth perspective, you look at the world through the mind; from the fifth perspective, you look at the world through the heart.

The Wisdom Of The Witness

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.04.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

From this point of view you can see life as a movie and yourself as a detached spectator. You have no agenda other than discovering the truth -- the truth that will set you free.

No Empathy Without Sympathy (10.3)

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.02.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

"Empathy without sympathy is dangerous; sympathy without empathy is blind." "The world that appears to your eye is the world that appears ...

Be More Effective Thinking "What Would They Think?"

Fred Kofman | Posted 11.17.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Have you ever postponed an argument with your spouse because "the kids might hear us?" If so, you might have taken the third person perspective. That means that you would have put yourself in their shoes and imagined what they would think and feel if they heard your conversation.

WYSINWI: What You See Is Not What Is (10.2)

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.28.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

To "see" better you need to add consciousness to your eyes. You need to break the spell of phenomena (from the Greek, "phainein," to show) and "look" with a disciplined mind. That is the origin of the scientific method: the concern for finding the truth behind the appearances.

The Real Reason Why Big People Settle for Small Goals

Brian Whetten | Posted 10.28.2015 | Healthy Living
Brian Whetten

Have you ever turned down an exciting opportunity and played it safe instead? Have you ever made a decision out of anger and ended up hurting someone you love?

The 5 Perspectives That Make Smart People Smart (10.1)

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.26.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Different subjects, with different mental models will experience different realities. And the more you can liberate yourself from the illusion that things appear to you as they "really are," the more you will be able to experience reality from other points of view.

How To Improve Performance: A Coaching Conversation (9.6)

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.23.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Shane's unfiltered thoughts are toxic. They won't improve the work, will harm the relationship and betray his cherished values of respect and compassion.

Feedback: A Combustion Engine Is Much Better Than A Bomb (9.5)

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.21.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

How often could you productively get together with your colleagues and ask, "How are we working together? Is there anything I could do to make your work better? Or to improve our relationship? Or to help increase your well-being and happiness?"

What To Do When Things Are Not Working

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.19.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Speaking in the first person, taking ownership for your experience and opinions are the secret of presenting confronting information in a constructive manner.

Turn Blame And Threat Into Appreciate And Suggest

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.16.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

To start with criticism, follow with orders and end with threats is not effective. "It's your fault. You broke it, so you better fix it!" is a really bad way to go. We're on the same boat; we float or we sink together.

How To Structure An Improvement Conversation

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.14.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

To improve the performance, the relationship and the well-being of both of you, you must convey information about the impact of your counterpart's behavior on the goal and on you. But to maximize the value of this information you need to share it non-judgmentally.

How to Establish and Maintain Commitments (8.6)

Fred Kofman | Posted 10.09.2015 | Business
Fred Kofman

Tara wants to confront her teammates, but she's worried that bringing up this potentially explosive issue can make things even worse. In the following video, I help Tara prepare to discuss the issue with her teammates and re-establish effectiveness, trust and integrity.