When it came to celebrating my husband's professional accomplishments, I wasn't the first to congratulate him. I felt jealous of his time in the limelight for very public recognition of his accomplishments in a career I had given up to care for our family. And I also interpreted his success as taking away from mine.
We are so sensitive and avoidant about death in this culture, aren't we? Not only about the death of the body -- our own, and those we cherish. But av...
Our ego-mind loves to distort the truth in ways that either makes us better than or less than others. I found that this search for who-you-really-are becomes much easier if you first clarify who-you-are-not. You need to peel away any false layers to reveal the real truth hidden within.
Will our self-programming computers send out hostile orders to the chips we've added to our everyday objects? Or is this just another disruptive moment, similar to the harnessing of steam or the splitting of the atom?
We had a fight the other day, a big, messy fight that scared us both. Tim and I dug ourselves in so deeply and so quickly, I wondered if this was the moment that would mark the end of our 28-year marriage.
Somewhere in the middle of my marriage, I gave up. I had built up an inventory of complaints -- Meg's bossiness, my withdrawal from physical contact, our adequate but perfunctory sex life -- but resolving them just seemed too daunting to be in the realm of possibility, so I kept them to myself.
One of the reasons so many relationships don't last is that we confuse "falling in love" -- the temporary, emotional, hormone-infused high -- with the act and art of loving, the sacred work of relationship.
It is easy to be kind when we are feeling wonderful about life, when we're feeling buoyantly inspired, or luminous in love, or poignantly connected to...
Instead of thinking of the year ahead as a problem to be solved, we've found we're much more likely to consider the potentials -- without getting stopped by the impossibility of what our creative brain comes up with.
Guys -- especially married guys -- hate dancing, and I am no exception. Problem is, my wife loves to dance. But she knew I didn't dance when we met, so that was just part of the deal.
I'm committing to three things in 2015 to become a better lover, partner and husband to my wife: active appreciation, taking responsibility, and telling the truth. I didn't always do these things, but I've discovered a direct correlation to better sex, fun and closeness in our relationship.
A quick peck on my cheek, as he dashed out to catch the train for long days at work in New York City -- that's how Tim and I parted each day. We came together again in the same way with a greeting that acknowledged we occupied the same space, but left me longing for a racy Hollywood embrace.
Right now, about 40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete as a concept. They are not sure it is even necessary. As a result, less couples than ever before are married, and marriage rates will continue to decline into the future.
One of the most valuable assets of curiosity is its ability to seek to understand another person -- fully and truly -- without judgment. I find that the most open and least judgmental people are curious.
Depending on your upbringing and past experience, setting boundaries in relationships may be easier or more difficult for you.
I don't know exactly when I decided to ditch my husband, but my plan was to be free of him as soon as our youngest child graduated from high school. Now, a few years later, we're thriving together.