It's important because it separates our experience from other people's experiences. It's important because it allows us to take better care of ourselves -- emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually -- so we feel so much less stressed, overwhelmed, and out of balance.
Often, we overlook flaws because we fall in love with a person. This is admirable, but we also have to recognize the principles that mold a partner into a soulmate -- those elements that fortify a loving bond for the long run. Consider these seven qualities as essential to fostering an incredible, lifelong partnership...
Don't misunderstand me. I absolutely believe in soul mates. But what I have discovered is that just because I found someone who I connected with deeply on a soul level, it did not mean that was the person I was meant to spend the rest of my life with.
Embrace your messiness, dear parents... we probably aren't as bad as we might lead ourselves to believe. My kids taught me that (as usual).
Forgiveness doesn't have to be complicated -- nor does releasing our anger and resentments have to be complicated. What it ultimately boils down to is our willingness release it and heal. We are able to forgive and open ourselves to love when we make the intention to forgive, let it go, and heal.
I believe my wife is the perfect match for me: she's smart, creative, sexy and loving. And Meg also knows how to push my buttons in a way that drives me up the wall. That also makes her perfect for me.
When it came to celebrating my husband's professional accomplishments, I wasn't the first to congratulate him. I felt jealous of his time in the limelight for very public recognition of his accomplishments in a career I had given up to care for our family. And I also interpreted his success as taking away from mine.
We are so sensitive and avoidant about death in this culture, aren't we? Not only about the death of the body -- our own, and those we cherish. But av...
Our ego-mind loves to distort the truth in ways that either makes us better than or less than others. I found that this search for who-you-really-are becomes much easier if you first clarify who-you-are-not. You need to peel away any false layers to reveal the real truth hidden within.
Will our self-programming computers send out hostile orders to the chips we've added to our everyday objects? Or is this just another disruptive moment, similar to the harnessing of steam or the splitting of the atom?
We had a fight the other day, a big, messy fight that scared us both. Tim and I dug ourselves in so deeply and so quickly, I wondered if this was the moment that would mark the end of our 28-year marriage.
Somewhere in the middle of my marriage, I gave up. I had built up an inventory of complaints -- Meg's bossiness, my withdrawal from physical contact, our adequate but perfunctory sex life -- but resolving them just seemed too daunting to be in the realm of possibility, so I kept them to myself.
One of the reasons so many relationships don't last is that we confuse "falling in love" -- the temporary, emotional, hormone-infused high -- with the act and art of loving, the sacred work of relationship.
It is easy to be kind when we are feeling wonderful about life, when we're feeling buoyantly inspired, or luminous in love, or poignantly connected to...
Instead of thinking of the year ahead as a problem to be solved, we've found we're much more likely to consider the potentials -- without getting stopped by the impossibility of what our creative brain comes up with.
Guys -- especially married guys -- hate dancing, and I am no exception. Problem is, my wife loves to dance. But she knew I didn't dance when we met, so that was just part of the deal.