Noticing how differently I was behaving with my stepchildren was a giant wake-up call. I needed to be more supportive of Molly and Fiona without being intrusive, to make requests without being so bossy.
Your 5-year-old is playing with a toy. Your 1-year-old takes it. Your 5-year-old, surrounded by a minimum of 47 other toys, begins to shriek. You say, "Don't be angry, he's a baby. Take this other toy."
To avoid the burn of acting out during an emotional upsurge, take a few simple steps to calm your heightened spirit and quiet your uneasy mind. When the moment has passed, you'll be grateful you were able to be the master of your emotions.
In Star Trek Into Darkness, Spock claims he can choose whether or not to feel an emotion. Can humans chose how to feel or is this simply a Vulcan thing? The answer is that people can often act in a Vulcan manner and choose their feelings.