Trusting that I have the resources and the skills to deal with a potential problem gave me the opportunity to overcome my fear. I felt empowered and in control. Just as in skiing, so it is in our daily lives.
It's hard not to attack back when you feel attacked. But, little by little, surrendering these reflexive instincts is a more compassionate, evolved way to get your needs met and keep relationships viable if and when it's possible.