So please understand that the next time I ask you a question, it is because I need your help. I don't ask questions about things for which I already have an answer. And if I ask you a question that doesn't make sense to you, please know that I am doing my best to inquire about something that I obviously don't have enough information to even ask the proper questions, so help me out.
Becoming more skilled in the process of getting complete is a great way to break the habit of avoidance and one of the best things that you can do for your relationship. There is a learning curve to the process, but it doesn't take a genius to master it. You might as well go for it. You've got nothing to lose but your incompletions!