Seeking other-centered conversation frees us to love others. If I am intent on truly knowing the other person, I am not worried about their reception of me. Self-forgetfulness gives me the courage to persevere even when I feel out of place; even if it feels awkward, it's an offering of love. And love can never be a waste.
Strength is a strange and malicious gift in Hollywood. In the few short weeks I have spent here, it has become unnervingly apparent that strength among women is no longer a sought-after personality trait. This dying evolution has been replaced by the harsh competition, brought on by a lack of trust in an already tough community.
Some people are offended when I call them secret-keepers (liars, essentially) and I have to assure them it's a universal problem. Other people claim a right to their secrets under the guise of privacy; it's my life, my thoughts, my feelings -- I should be able to choose who I share them with, right?" Wrong, and I'll explain why.
So please understand that the next time I ask you a question, it is because I need your help. I don't ask questions about things for which I already have an answer. And if I ask you a question that doesn't make sense to you, please know that I am doing my best to inquire about something that I obviously don't have enough information to even ask the proper questions, so help me out.
Becoming more skilled in the process of getting complete is a great way to break the habit of avoidance and one of the best things that you can do for your relationship. There is a learning curve to the process, but it doesn't take a genius to master it. You might as well go for it. You've got nothing to lose but your incompletions!