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Sloths Must Have the Best Sex Lives

Pam Costa | Posted 01.09.2017 | Women
Pam Costa

Like Kristen Bell, I'm still a little emotional from a recent visit with a sloth. Maybe it's the memory of his warm furry body nestled up against mine...

Learning To Moan Changed My Sex Life

Pam Costa | Posted 12.19.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

In the months since our three experiments, I have gotten increasingly comfortable with being expressive in (and out of) the bedroom.

What Couples Therapy IS, And What It Is NOT

Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC | Posted 11.30.2016 | Divorce
Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC

The most important component to a successful experience in couple's therapy is when two people both willingly enter the process, and are both working towards a mutual goal of repairing their relationship.

6 Critical Things Marriage Counseling Taught Me

Moshe Ratson | Posted 11.23.2016 | Healthy Living
Moshe Ratson

The initial year of our marriage was perfect. My wife and I were the envied couple, and everyone wanted to know the secret recipe of our marriage. Bot...

I Am A Sexual Tension Junkie

Pam Costa | Posted 11.22.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

Holy moly. There was no doubt in my mind that right then and there, I had found my erotic blueprint.

A Birthday Gift To Myself: Reclaiming My Body

Pam Costa | Posted 11.03.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

I am sad at the part these experiences played in distancing me from my own body. Not feeling like my body was safe took a toll on my self-confidence and kept me from experiencing pleasure.

The Advice Every Couple In A Sexless Marriage Needs To Hear

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 10.26.2016 | Divorce

It’s incredibly painful when the person you love doesn’t want to be intimate with you. Luckily, there are steps you can take to change that. In a ...

The Problem With "The Nice Guy"

Amy Begel | Posted 10.20.2016 | Women
Amy Begel

One fascinating aspect of my work as a couples/ family therapist is that it gives me an intimate view into the current cultural dynamics of couples. For the last twenty or so years, over half the couples I see contain the "nice guy" with his frustrated wife.

3 Ways To Maintain Your Relationship When Your Spouse Hurts You

Scott Gornto | Posted 10.05.2016 | Healthy Living
Scott Gornto

3 WAYS TO MAINTAIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOUR SPOUSE HURTS YOU "Fine. I'll just do it myself." Jane stormed out of the living room and into the ki...

How To Tell If You're A Good Candidate For Couples Counselling

Samantha Rodman PhD | Posted 09.23.2016 | Weddings
Samantha Rodman PhD

If you were wondering if couples counseling would help you and your partner, and you hit at least two things on this list, try it.

The "Needy Woman"/Detached Guy Couple: It's Not What It Seems

Amy Begel | Posted 09.06.2016 | Women
Amy Begel

It was hard to guage the state of Nora and Charles' relationship when they first sat down on the couch. ( An initial glimpse into a couple's energy often says a lot about where things are at). I hadn't seen them for several months due to traveling and other scheduling issues.

How My Selfie Stick Helped Me Feel Sexy

Pam Costa | Posted 08.31.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

As our workshop leader handed each of us a selfie stick, she acknowledged that all of us have body parts we don't like, and that it can be scary to look at ourselves through a camera lens, but that she had found incredible power and sexual energy in taking photographs of the things she did like about her body. And she wanted us to have the same experience.

Breaking Through Patterns Of Conflict In Relationships

Carmen Isáis | Posted 08.22.2016 | Healthy Living
Carmen Isáis

In a relationship or marriage, one key ingredient that keeps a couple together is the practice of resolving conflicts. Love goes far, but it only goes...

6 Reasons To Go To Couples Therapy, Even If Your Partner Won't

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 08.09.2016 | Divorce

As the name would suggest, couples therapy is intended for couples. But sometimes, only one partner is willing to go. “The resistant partner may fe...

A Wife Worries: 'We've Got A Lousy Sex Life'

Amy Begel | Posted 08.09.2016 | Weddings
Amy Begel

As a family therapist, I've seen many couples over the years whose presenting complaint revolves around sex. Usually it's because the sex is too infrequent, too lackluster, or at the male parter has some kind of sexual dysfunction. (I've only seen one case where the complaint was too much sex!)

The Case Of The Invisible Mom

Amy Begel | Posted 08.01.2016 | Women
Amy Begel

As a family therapist with many years of practice under my belt, I've had the occasion to see quite a few women -- and men -- who have lost their voice in their intimate relationship. Interestingly, sometimes this "invisibility" disguises itself as anger, and becomes hard to recognize.

Watch Matt Damon Totally Lose It During 'Couples Therapy'

The Huffington Post | Bill Bradley | Posted 07.29.2016 | Entertainment

Sometimes laughter is the only response to deal with the pain. We’re guessing that’s what’s happening here. Since he has a new Jason Bourne movi...

Do You And Your Spouse Both Drink? Why It Could Matter For Marital Bliss

The Huffington Post | Abigail Williams | Posted 07.21.2016 | Weddings

According to a new study, the couple that drinks together stays together. The findings, published in The Journals of Gerontology, suggests there may b...

A Woman Finds Her Voice and Loses Her Depression

Amy Begel | Posted 07.20.2016 | Women
Amy Begel

As a family and couples' therapist, I have the opportunity to work with many women who consider themselves depressed. Often these women see this as a purely personal struggle, believing they have a "chemical imbalance". They often feel burdened and alone, and responsible and/or guilty for their depression.

The Unexpected Lesson I Learned About Pleasuring My Husband

Pam Costa | Posted 07.06.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

What I really learned is that the absolute most effective way to turn on my partner is to be confident and enthusiastic. Seriously, this woman was so INTO what she was doing and so INTO her partner that it would still would have been hot if she was slathering his cock with peanut butter while reading him the federal tax code.

What A Couple On The Brink Of Divorce Looks Like

Amy Begel | Posted 06.15.2016 | Divorce
Amy Begel

One of the many pleasures of my family therapy practice is when family physician students come to my office to observe. As a long-time teacher in family medicine, I have the ongoing opportunity to share what I know about couple and family dynamics with these young family doctors-in-training.

5 Ways Babies Create Strain in a Marriage

Moshe Ratson | Posted 06.06.2016 | Parents
Moshe Ratson

The feeling that you get at the arrival of a little bundle of happiness in the family is indescribable. Whether they are grandparents, uncles and aunt...

What Your Girlfriend Wants You to Know

Mark Goulston, M.D. | Posted 05.26.2016 | Healthy Living
Mark Goulston, M.D.

Continuing in the "What Your ... Wants You to Know" series of Conversation Catalysts created to help stimulate you having positive and long overdue co...

3 Things You Need to Know Before Seeing a Relationship Therapist

Isiah McKimmie | Posted 05.19.2016 | Women
Isiah McKimmie

Last week I received an email from a new client. It read: "I saw your posts on Facebook a year ago, and I'm finally ready to come and see you..." I...

Stranger Role Play and Girl Boners

Pam Costa | Posted 05.16.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

Stepping out of the dark street and into the darker bar, I scoped out the scene. It was so weird going into a bar pretending to be a single woman. My stomach started to get butterflies as I looked at everything with new eyes. Where should I sit? What should I do?