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Couples Therapy

3 Approaches to Solving Problems

Dr. Natasha Josefowitz | Posted 06.18.2015 | Women
Dr. Natasha Josefowitz

When faced with a conflict with someone else, people often do not know how to proceed. Having a method to deal with problems can be helpful.

Play Like a Kid

Pam Costa | Posted 06.09.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

It may seem strange that writing about playing like a kid is part of a series of blogs about sex, but let's face it, sex is just another form of play. Sure, it's adult play, but if you've forgotten how to play like a kid, my guess is that you're not maximizing the potential for enjoyment in your sex life. At least I certainly wasn't.

What a Strawberry Taught Me About Sex

Pam Costa | Posted 05.26.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

So how can a strawberry teach me to be present? In the past, I relied heavily on touch to keep me immersed in a sexual encounter. But the reality is that I have four other awesome senses that can help keep me present and connected with my partner

Give Me a Kiss to Build a Dream On

Pam Costa | Posted 05.19.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

We decided to conduct an experiment where he would plant a very bold Hollywood-style kiss on me when he arrived home for dinner. This dramatic entrance kick-started the trajectory and was silly enough to throw me off my typical rejection response.

Why Too Much Sex Is Like Too Much Ice Cream

Pam Costa | Posted 05.12.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

My husband's desire was higher than mine, so he initiated sex more frequently than I would otherwise crave it. Over the course of time I rarely had the opportunity to spontaneously feel and connect with my desire of my own accord. This was a very painful state.

Changing the Playlist in My Head

Pam Costa | Posted 05.07.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

A year later, I have added a bunch of new mantras to my playlist. The voices in my head are still funny and sarcastic, but I love them the most when they channel their sassy and sexy sides and whisper things like "Go ahead, you have time for a little unexpected pleasure right now."

When Picture Perfect Isn't Picture Perfect

Pam Costa | Posted 06.30.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

It's an interesting experience, this being the partner with lower desire in a long-term relationship. In my case, the way this played out over two decades is that I fell into a routine of only having sex with my husband when he initiated.

Breathing All the Way Down... to There

Pam Costa | Posted 06.23.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

When I went with my husband to a sex and relationship coach for the first time, I was really nervous. My desire had been much less than my husband's for well over a decade and I didn't even know how to begin the conversation.

Why I Started a Blog About Sex

Pam Costa | Posted 06.14.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

I've been with my husband for 20 years. And we've had a pretty awesome marriage by most measures. But they say you'll either fight about sex or money. And for us, it wasn't money.

Celebration Planning Can Be Effective Therapy!

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 04.23.2015 | Weddings
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

If we are mindful and reflective as we plan weddings and other milestone celebrations, we can develop skills for forging and maintaining relationships that will last a lifetime.

Premarital Counseling Did Not Benefit My Marriage

Cindy Withjack | Posted 04.13.2015 | Divorce
Cindy Withjack

Although religion-based premarital counseling didn't do much in the way of benefiting or impairing my marriage, it was absolutely a catalyst to discovering that it wasn't at all the life I wanted.

Heading Into a Bumpy Valentine's Day? Consider the Paradoxes of Love

Dr. Tim Cavell | Posted 04.12.2015 | Weddings
Dr. Tim Cavell

Attending to these five paradoxes might not lead to what Steve Miller called "lovey-dovey, lovey-dovey, lovey-dovey all the time." But as a Valentine's Day gift, they're worth more than a box of chocolates.

For Couples Who Hate Valentine's Day... Do This to Give the Best Gift Ever

Susan Kraus | Posted 04.11.2015 | Fifty
Susan Kraus

Think of it as a "State of Our Union" conversation, in which you address the state of your union. From habits to behaviors, attitudes to aspirations, this is your opportunity to focus on how to love each other better.

5 Things for New Moms to Give Their Husbands

Kirsten Brunner, MA, LPC | Posted 04.06.2015 | Parents
Kirsten Brunner, MA, LPC

Your husband cannot read your mind. He doesn't know that you wanted him to pick up dinner from the Thai restaurant on the corner because you've been pacing the kitchen all afternoon with a fussy baby.

What I Learned In 5 Years of Marriage

Krista Pelton | Posted 04.15.2015 | Weddings
Krista Pelton

Through all the times of uncertainty, discontent and disappointment the only thing that remained constant was my husband. That was my light bulb moment. That's why marriage exists. Life is sweeter when you have someone to help you get through it.

6 Ways To Make Time For Sex Even When It Seems Impossible

Samantha Rodman PhD | Posted 03.18.2015 | Weddings
Samantha Rodman PhD

If you're like every parent of a small child I know, you find it pretty difficult to set aside couple's time with your spouse. And then you have this niggling fear in the back of your brain that you will grow apart, become distant and when the kids go to college, you will blow this popsicle stand.

8 Surprising (And Scientifically Proven) Things That Lead To A Lasting Marriage

The Huffington Post | Amanda Scherker | Posted 12.15.2014 | Weddings

Finding and keeping a lifelong love can feel like a crapshoot. No matter how madly in love you may be, maintaining a marriage is never easy. And while...

6 Things Your Couples Therapist Already Knows About Your Relationship

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 12.26.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

It's said you can't kid a kidder. But you'd also have to reach a pretty high bar to fool a couples counselor. We've pretty much seen it all. Fortunately for us, we don't have to reinvent the therapy wheel every time we meet a new couple.

There are 99 Problems With Marriage but the Size of an Engagement Ring is Not One

Jenny Triplett | Posted 12.16.2014 | Weddings
Jenny Triplett

There always seems to be a study regarding marriages, the cost of weddings and even divorces. With all of the possible variables that the human factor presents, what seems to be missing is good ol common sense.

Here's A Ridiculous Alternative To Couple's Therapy That Just Might Work

The Huffington Post | Taryn Hillin | Posted 10.08.2014 | Divorce

Tinder might be able to save your marriage, one terrible dating profile at a time. At least that's the logic behind this bar sign, which jokingly ...

Mindfulness And Marriage

Donna Rockwell, PsyD | Posted 11.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Donna Rockwell, PsyD

By cultivating tolerance for our own feelings, and softening to one another rather than constricting, healthy and mindful marriages have a fighting chance.

4 Reasons To Seek Couples Therapy Sooner Rather Than Later

Ian Oliver | Posted 10.27.2014 | Divorce
Ian Oliver

Many people have a negative association to the word "therapist" or "counselor." They think that seeing one means something isn't right and at times that might be true, but seeing a therapist early on in a relationship or marriage can do a lot to guide it in the right direction instead of trying to save it later on.

Affordable, Quality Psychotherapy in America: Open Path Psychotherapy Collective

Paul Fugelsang | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Paul Fugelsang

It's been about a year and a half since I first introduced my idea for making mental health care more affordable for more people. I blogged about it r...

You Can't Teach An Old Dog New Tricks... Says Who?

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 08.26.2014 | Fifty
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

It is sad but true that we often carry around burdens from the past way into our 40's, 50's and even 60's that have never been addressed or healed. Guilt. Shame. Old angers and resentment.

The Upside of 'Marrying Down'

Dr. Sonya Rhodes | Posted 08.02.2014 | Women
Dr. Sonya Rhodes

Old ideas die hard. But today's romances more and more reflect that smart women and men are neither marrying up or marrying down -- we're just marrying the right person.