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Is Sexting the Best Valentine's Gift of All?

Pam Costa | Posted 02.08.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

Just before Valentine's Day last year, the naughty little girl inside me started stomping her feet and trying to get my attention. She threw herself on the floor in a tantrum screaming "You need to spice things up! You are a hot, sexy woman with needs and its high time you seduce your husband through some flirtatious emails."

The Clinton's Marriage Matters

Howard J. Markman, Ph.D | Posted 02.04.2016 | Divorce
Howard J. Markman, Ph.D

Mr. Trump (and others) want to make an issue of Hillary and Bill's marriage due to Bill's marital indiscretions and her reactions to them. I want to make an issue of what matters: That they stayed together!

3 Ways to Refocus Your Marriage in 2016

Scott Gornto | Posted 02.02.2016 | Weddings
Scott Gornto

Maybe you or your spouse have lost focus. Maybe you both have had a communication break down and it's created a wedge in your relationship. Maybe there's been hurt and the walls are up for both of you. Whatever the cause, here are my simple challenges to you to refocus your marriage in 2016.

5 Communication Mistakes Almost Every Couple Makes

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 02.01.2016 | Fifty
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Good listening is a skill. Like every other skill, practice makes it better. Why do we stop listening? There are many reasons, but here are a few.

Sexism in Therapy

Rosjke Hasseldine | Posted 01.27.2016 | Women
Rosjke Hasseldine

Within the therapy community there is a general belief that counselors and psychotherapists are gender neutral and that they do not impose their personal beliefs about gender roles onto their clients. In my experience, this belief is incorrect.

Lean In... to Orgasm

Pam Costa | Posted 01.19.2016 | Women
Pam Costa

So as Sheryl Sandberg was busy creating Lean In Circles to encourage women to step outside their comfort zones at work, I began to create my own group to encourage women to step outside their comfort zones in the bedroom and in their relationships.

What Happened When I Got Tired Of Making Excuses And Said 'Yes' to Sex

Pam Costa | Posted 01.19.2016 | Weddings
Pam Costa

If you had asked me whether sex was an important part of the equation several years ago, I would have brushed you off with a quick "sure." There would have been a myriad of excuses as to why it wasn't something I invested energy into. As Sweet Brown so succinctly put it, "Ain't nobody got time for that."

Therapy Couldn't Save My Marriage, But It Saved Me

Aubrey Keefer | Posted 01.13.2016 | Divorce
Aubrey Keefer

The tools I've gained in therapy have truly been invaluable. I am a better mother, a better daughter and sister, a better friend, and a better partner because of therapy. Therapy couldn't save my marriage, but it saved me.

Your Parents or Partner: Who Are You Married To?

Liz Higgins | Posted 12.14.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Liz Higgins

Before I became a couples therapist, I looked at conflicted couples (and my own conflicted relationships) and saw pain, insecurity, desperation, and l...

Has Your Romantic Relationship Become a Business Relationship? To Find Out Answer These Seven Questions.

Jerry Stocking | Posted 12.08.2015 | HuffPost Home
Jerry Stocking

Do you talk a lot about logistics? Logistical conversations are all about handling the details of living in the world. They center around time and mo...

This Model Just Became The First Openly Trans Person To Wed On Reality TV

The Huffington Post | James Nichols | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices

Transgender model Carmen Carrera will make history this week when she becomes, according to a press release from VH1, the first transgender pe...

Thanksgiving and Sex

Pam Costa | Posted 11.23.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

This week, people all across America will sit down together for dinner and express their gratitude for the good things in their lives. And if this year is like prior years, the day after Thanksgiving, we'll wash our hands of the holiday and dive headfirst into the "Season of Giving."

How to Heat Up a Lukewarm Relationship

Amy Begel | Posted 11.23.2015 | Healthy Living
Amy Begel

This snapshot of a therapy draws the curtain back on a dance that I see often in my office. Two caring people, inhabiting an unsatisfying relationship, and not sure how they got there. Discovering these tensions and bringing them into the open often helps break through the lukewarm temperature in these relationships.

Couples Therapy Didn't Keep Us Married. But Don't Say It Didn't Work

Jonathan Weiler | Posted 11.12.2015 | Divorce
Jonathan Weiler

We first sought out a couples' therapist when our daughter, now 18, was an infant. We were unhappy, our marriage lacked intimacy and we were worried about our prospects. Of course, many parents of newborns are unhappy. But we knew something deeper was amiss.

Why Not Desiring Sex Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me

Pam Costa | Posted 11.03.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

My journey continues to have its ups and downs, helping me balance confidence with humility. There are days when I feel in complete control of my sexuality and connected with my partner and other times when I feel like my libido has gone missing, never to return again.

Is Your Addiction to Technology Ruining Your Relationship?

Andrea Cairella | Posted 11.03.2015 | Healthy Living
Andrea Cairella

If you find yourself being less present with live human beings, getting swept away by the technology tornado or just feeling ready to break up with technology so you can feel more connected with yourself and loved ones, then the following tips will help you get back online with life.

A Couple's Repair Playbook

Thea and Duane Harvey | Posted 11.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Thea and Duane Harvey

What distinguishes successful couples is the ability to repair. How we handle the breakdown makes all the difference in the world. Don't be discouraged by conflict. Whether disconnections are frequent or few and far between, they can deepen trust if you step into the repair mode promptly.

Considering Couples Counseling? Here Are Some Things to Know First

Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC | Posted 10.07.2015 | Divorce
Dr. Nikki Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC

There are a number of things you should consider before entering couples therapy. Are both members of the couple committed to this process? Too often one partner is pulling the other in by their ear, and this does not set great groundwork to start.

Matt Damon And Jimmy Kimmel Reveal The Reason For Their 'Feud'

The Huffington Post | Bill Bradley | Posted 09.29.2015 | Comedy

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Letting Go of the Quest for the Big O

Pam Costa | Posted 09.28.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

Maybe it was because I really didn't want to go to the party we were invited to. Maybe it was because we recently took a class encouraging us to explore each other's bodies with curiosity. Whatever the reason, something very different happened that night when we began to have sex.

How Meditation Can Improve Your Marriage

Jennie Lee | Posted 09.22.2015 | Weddings
Jennie Lee

Modern marriages face a lot of stress -- too little time and money, too much technology and temptation. In order to keep your love alive, it is es...

The Day I Trusted My Husband to Tie Me Up

Pam Costa | Posted 09.21.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

We sat on the judo mats in a small studio in downtown San Francisco surrounded by 20 other strangers in yoga clothes. Over the last few months, my husband and I had been exploring different ways of connecting physically and this class in Shibari, an ancient Japanese form of rope bondage, seemed full of possibilities.

Love and Sex in the Desert

Pam Costa | Posted 09.08.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

As we were driving to Burning Man at the end of last summer, I came across a listing for a class called "Intimate Breathwork & Eyegazing". The workshop promised to help couples connect in a very deep way and I thought "I want to connect in a deep way with my husband... let's do this."

The #1 Relationship Problem, According To Therapists

SELF | Posted 09.03.2015 | Divorce

Whether you're a year into matrimonial bliss or celebrating a decade of wedlock, you'll benefit big-time from this romance wisdom. In fact, you don't even have to be hitched to learn a thing or two about love.

Life After Ashley Madison

Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. | Posted 09.11.2015 | Divorce
Tammy Nelson, Ph.D.

It is more common than you think for people to join dating and cheating websites only to look around. Sometimes, people look around or even chat with someone by email but never, in fact, make a date.