As our workshop leader handed each of us a selfie stick, she acknowledged that all of us have body parts we don't like, and that it can be scary to look at ourselves through a camera lens, but that she had found incredible power and sexual energy in taking photographs of the things she did like about her body. And she wanted us to have the same experience.
As a family and couples' therapist, I have the opportunity to work with many women who consider themselves depressed. Often these women see this as a purely personal struggle, believing they have a "chemical imbalance". They often feel burdened and alone, and responsible and/or guilty for their depression.
What I really learned is that the absolute most effective way to turn on my partner is to be confident and enthusiastic. Seriously, this woman was so INTO what she was doing and so INTO her partner that it would still would have been hot if she was slathering his cock with peanut butter while reading him the federal tax code.