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Why People Choose to Cheat Even When It Might Destroy Their Relationship

Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A. | Posted 07.31.2015 | Women
Dr. Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman M.A.

While it is easy to blame the people who have affairs as the one who has betrayed the relationship, in our sex therapy and relationship coaching practice, we have found that people don't cheat because they are bad people. But, they do cheat and they cheat for many reasons.

8 Ways to Be Your Therapist's Favorite Patient

Laura Lifshitz | Posted 07.28.2015 | Comedy
Laura Lifshitz

So you're in therapy and secretly or not-so secretly, you have taken your therapist on as a second mom or dad.

Designing With the Cro-Magnon Male

Debbe Daley | Posted 07.23.2015 | HuffPost Home
Debbe Daley

As an early description of the male species, Cro-Magnons had a strong and hardy robust build. The body was generally heavy, strong and muscular. Somehow through the changes of time, powerful thinking of the Cro-Magnon male hasn't progressed when it comes to changes in their home.

Masturbation Is Wrong. Wait. What?

Pam Costa | Posted 07.21.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

When I decided to confront what I had perceived as "low libido," I realized that if I could masturbate, then I clearly had the capacity to turn myself on. And with that realization, I began to wonder if getting over my embarrassment about masturbation might be key to unlocking the sexual tiger within.

4 Things to Get Right to Keep Your Marriage From Going Wrong

Phoebe Fox | Posted 07.13.2015 | Weddings
Phoebe Fox

If weddings are the splash and fizz of opening night on Broadway, marriage is the slog of the dozens, hundreds, thousands of performances that follow. How are couples supposed to maintain the best parts of the early days of their relationship amid the slings and arrows of day-to-day life?

3 Myths About Low Libido

Pam Costa | Posted 07.06.2015 | Healthy Living
Pam Costa

A year ago, my partner and I made the decision to start seeing a sex and relationship coach. Through our journey, I've debunked a few myths about l...

3 Approaches to Solving Problems

Dr. Natasha Josefowitz | Posted 06.18.2015 | Women
Dr. Natasha Josefowitz

When faced with a conflict with someone else, people often do not know how to proceed. Having a method to deal with problems can be helpful.

Play Like a Kid

Pam Costa | Posted 06.09.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

It may seem strange that writing about playing like a kid is part of a series of blogs about sex, but let's face it, sex is just another form of play. Sure, it's adult play, but if you've forgotten how to play like a kid, my guess is that you're not maximizing the potential for enjoyment in your sex life. At least I certainly wasn't.

What a Strawberry Taught Me About Sex

Pam Costa | Posted 05.26.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

So how can a strawberry teach me to be present? In the past, I relied heavily on touch to keep me immersed in a sexual encounter. But the reality is that I have four other awesome senses that can help keep me present and connected with my partner

Give Me a Kiss to Build a Dream On

Pam Costa | Posted 05.19.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

We decided to conduct an experiment where he would plant a very bold Hollywood-style kiss on me when he arrived home for dinner. This dramatic entrance kick-started the trajectory and was silly enough to throw me off my typical rejection response.

Why Too Much Sex Is Like Too Much Ice Cream

Pam Costa | Posted 05.12.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

My husband's desire was higher than mine, so he initiated sex more frequently than I would otherwise crave it. Over the course of time I rarely had the opportunity to spontaneously feel and connect with my desire of my own accord. This was a very painful state.

Changing the Playlist in My Head

Pam Costa | Posted 05.07.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

A year later, I have added a bunch of new mantras to my playlist. The voices in my head are still funny and sarcastic, but I love them the most when they channel their sassy and sexy sides and whisper things like "Go ahead, you have time for a little unexpected pleasure right now."

When Picture Perfect Isn't Picture Perfect

Pam Costa | Posted 06.30.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

It's an interesting experience, this being the partner with lower desire in a long-term relationship. In my case, the way this played out over two decades is that I fell into a routine of only having sex with my husband when he initiated.

Breathing All the Way Down... to There

Pam Costa | Posted 06.23.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

When I went with my husband to a sex and relationship coach for the first time, I was really nervous. My desire had been much less than my husband's for well over a decade and I didn't even know how to begin the conversation.

Why I Started a Blog About Sex

Pam Costa | Posted 06.14.2015 | Women
Pam Costa

I've been with my husband for 20 years. And we've had a pretty awesome marriage by most measures. But they say you'll either fight about sex or money. And for us, it wasn't money.

Celebration Planning Can Be Effective Therapy!

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 04.23.2015 | Weddings
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

If we are mindful and reflective as we plan weddings and other milestone celebrations, we can develop skills for forging and maintaining relationships that will last a lifetime.

Premarital Counseling Did Not Benefit My Marriage

Cindy Withjack | Posted 04.13.2015 | Divorce
Cindy Withjack

Although religion-based premarital counseling didn't do much in the way of benefiting or impairing my marriage, it was absolutely a catalyst to discovering that it wasn't at all the life I wanted.

Heading Into a Bumpy Valentine's Day? Consider the Paradoxes of Love

Dr. Tim Cavell | Posted 04.12.2015 | Weddings
Dr. Tim Cavell

Attending to these five paradoxes might not lead to what Steve Miller called "lovey-dovey, lovey-dovey, lovey-dovey all the time." But as a Valentine's Day gift, they're worth more than a box of chocolates.

For Couples Who Hate Valentine's Day... Do This to Give the Best Gift Ever

Susan Kraus | Posted 04.11.2015 | Fifty
Susan Kraus

Think of it as a "State of Our Union" conversation, in which you address the state of your union. From habits to behaviors, attitudes to aspirations, this is your opportunity to focus on how to love each other better.

5 Things for New Moms to Give Their Husbands

Kirsten Brunner, MA, LPC | Posted 04.06.2015 | Parents
Kirsten Brunner, MA, LPC

Your husband cannot read your mind. He doesn't know that you wanted him to pick up dinner from the Thai restaurant on the corner because you've been pacing the kitchen all afternoon with a fussy baby.

What I Learned In 5 Years of Marriage

Krista Pelton | Posted 04.15.2015 | Weddings
Krista Pelton

Through all the times of uncertainty, discontent and disappointment the only thing that remained constant was my husband. That was my light bulb moment. That's why marriage exists. Life is sweeter when you have someone to help you get through it.

6 Ways To Make Time For Sex Even When It Seems Impossible

Samantha Rodman PhD | Posted 03.18.2015 | Weddings
Samantha Rodman PhD

If you're like every parent of a small child I know, you find it pretty difficult to set aside couple's time with your spouse. And then you have this niggling fear in the back of your brain that you will grow apart, become distant and when the kids go to college, you will blow this popsicle stand.

8 Surprising (And Scientifically Proven) Things That Lead To A Lasting Marriage

The Huffington Post | Amanda Scherker | Posted 12.15.2014 | Weddings

Finding and keeping a lifelong love can feel like a crapshoot. No matter how madly in love you may be, maintaining a marriage is never easy. And while...

6 Things Your Couples Therapist Already Knows About Your Relationship

Abby Rodman, LICSW | Posted 12.26.2014 | Divorce
Abby Rodman, LICSW

It's said you can't kid a kidder. But you'd also have to reach a pretty high bar to fool a couples counselor. We've pretty much seen it all. Fortunately for us, we don't have to reinvent the therapy wheel every time we meet a new couple.

There are 99 Problems With Marriage but the Size of an Engagement Ring is Not One

Jenny Triplett | Posted 12.16.2014 | Weddings
Jenny Triplett

There always seems to be a study regarding marriages, the cost of weddings and even divorces. With all of the possible variables that the human factor presents, what seems to be missing is good ol common sense.