After class, I drive to a greenway nearby and find a bench. I take a few deep breaths, then call my ex. Our conversation isn't necessarily any different than it has been in the past. And yet, everything seems different. I am grounded, calm, empowered, non-reactive. I am able to separate my "stuff" from his. This is new. This is HUGE!
Whether you're still in the midst of the storm or idling in the aftermath, the truth is that you have to reach down and make the decision that although you may have had no control over what happened to you, you do have control over how you respond and move forward. These six tips will help start you on that journey...
Follow your fear. There's glory on the other side of the tunnel. You won't be able to see the light on the other side...maybe even for awhile. You won't ever be ready. You won't ever be totally confident. You won't ever grow the courage. You grow the courage by doing it even though you aren't ready.
So this is a simple plea: Demand strong feelings from your relationship. Demand awe and inspiration-not all the time, but at least with some regularity. Do. Not. Settle. If you're not saying aloud (or at least to yourself) "I love you" to your mate in six months or less, hit the "next" button. Have the courage to believe that something better is out there.
The following five tips came from our crazy journey of "remodeling" a bland and generic rental balcony into a tropical island style outdoor room, almost entirely with discarded pallets and other recycled materials. And we did not break any rules as renters! Here's what we started with, and our tip number one.