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The Cripple and Control: Ripping Up the Script as a Sexy, Seated Man With Disabilities

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.04.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

I am beginning to learn that one of the best and most important parts about sex for myself, as a man with disabilities, is to give up that power that I held onto so tightly.

The Sex I Wanted and the Sex I Deserved: The Illusion of Spontaneity as a Queer Cripple

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

I fell in love with this idea of quick sex, because it spoke to a part of myself that I have fought to access my whole life: spontaneity.

Cocks & Bonds: That Time I Considered Hiring a Sex Worker as a Man With Disabilities

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Disability and sex work is never openly discussed. We need to start asking: how does it feel to pay for sex or sexual pleasure, not necessarily because you have the capital or even the desire to, but because you feel you may have no other choice?

Boys in Chairs and Their Toys: My First Experience With a Sex Toy as a Person With Disabilities

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

I had to sit with this toy clamped to my cock, buzzing and whirring with reckless abandon, while I was in the "dead turtle position," physically unable to move or change positions whatsoever, surrounded by a sea of blue pads. Go ahead, the visual is pretty hilarious.

That Time I Had Sex With Another Queer Cripple

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

The effects of ableism and the scripts that we have been indoctrinated with when it comes to sex and sexuality do not discriminate. Anybody is susceptible to these fears and prejudices, disability notwithstanding.

Owning the Big "O": Persons With Disabilities and Sex Work, a "Deliciously Different" Kind of "Session"

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

By only focusing on the above mentioned models of sex and disability, and glorifying the sex worker as a saint of sorts for providing such an invaluable experience, we are again placing people with disabilities at a disadvantage.

Dominance and Disability: Control, The Cripple and Learning to Let Go

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Control has become such an important part of my sexual identity, it even factors into the type of sex that I'll have. This is my moment to feel whole as a man; it is a split second in time that is not regulated by bookings, bed times and schedules. I get to actually have someone there with me out of want -- not necessity.

Feel the Fear and Do Me Anyway: I know My Disability Scares You; Here's Why That's Okay

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

I can always tell when a guy that I am about to hang out (read: date or hookup) with is afraid or apprehensive about my disability. The signs are tell tale, and any cripple who has tried to go on a date or a hook up has undoubtedly experienced this in one way or another.

"I Woke Up Like Dis": Why My Disability Is the Sexiest Thing About Me

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

As I have entered into my "Drewliciously Dirty Thirties" I have begun to realize that I can be sexy, not in spite of my disability, but because of my disability.

The Case of the Clingosaurus Cripple

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Soon-to-be lovers, friends or others, know that when I text or call you immediately following our hang out, I'm not trying to be clingy or needy, I am simply ensuring that the potential normalcy I am feeling doesn't crumble to the floor.

Boys in Chairs: My First Time, 11 Years Later

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 02.02.2016 | Queer Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

As quickly as those words entered my ears, I became the boy in the chair. Immediately an outsider in a group that was supposed to embrace outsiders.