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A Way Out of Loneliness

Lisa Firestone | Posted 11.09.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Every one of us will experience loneliness in our lifetime. It may hit us when we're single and spending Saturday night on our couch watching reruns or when we're smack at the center of a packed and pulsating party. There is one clear reason for this, and that is that loneliness is not just being alone, it is a perception of seeing ourselves as alone.

The Secret To A Healthy Relationship Is Totally In Your Control

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we take these steps, we may have thoughts telling us we are a fool, or we will just get hurt. Yet, being vulnerable actually makes us more likely to get what we want. It leads to healthier modes of relating and creates a more compassionate relationship.

7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You Parent

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.31.2015 | Parents
Lisa Firestone

Most parents who look into the eyes of their brand new baby see whatever lies ahead as a clean slate. Nothing turns our focus more toward the future than having a child.

Why We Won't Let Ourselves Be Happy

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.01.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Lisa Firestone

When it comes to our own happiness, many of us are familiar with the pattern of taking two steps forward, one step back. For example, if we want to lo...

Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

There is nothing wrong with being single. In fact, one of the most important lessons someone can learn is that they can be a whole and happy person on...

Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back?

Debbie Hampton | Posted 05.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Debbie Hampton

After years of self work, I sent my inner critic on an extended vacation and welcomed an inner friend. I shut the witch up and changed my underlying beliefs to be supportive and encouraging of my success and happiness.

Stop Hating Yourself Once and For All

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

In truth, we don't need studies to tell us that a self-esteem deficit clearly exists in our society. Just talk to any teenager, or small child for that matter, and ask them if there is something that they feel critical of in themselves. The answers are sure to shock you.

How To Find Your Happiness

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Despite what we may believe, quite often, we are not really seeking our own happiness at all. Many of us don't know ourselves well enough to conceptualize what we actually want. We conform to the notions and ideals of our society, our family and other influences that can drown out our own point of view.

How to Not Feel Let Down This Valentine's Day

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Whether it's an enjoyable excuse to go out, an anticipated opportunity to do something over the top or really, truly just another day, Valentine's Day should be what each of us makes of it and nothing more.

How Your Inner Critic Ruins Valentine's Day

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

It can use occasions like Valentine's Day to heighten your insecurity and to cause you to doubt or question yourself, your partner and your relationship.

Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Most of us treat love like an external force. It's something that happens to us, strikes us like an arrow or overcomes us like a storm. There is a problem with thinking of love this way, and that is that it can slant our focus outward.

The Scientific Approach to Changing Your Life

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Change is rarely linear; there are twists and turns. It's frightening to change, especially when you're going out on limb to go after your own unique goals. In this process, you realize who you really are, separate from society, family or any other outside influences.

3 Steps to Experience the Perfect Imperfect Moment

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Life is too precious to waste it lost in our heads, evaluating ourselves, one step removed from our own experience. We can more fully live our life by paying attention to our senses and being willing to feel what we are actually experiencing at any given moment in time.

Omitting the 'Obnoxious Roommate'

Naomi Firestone | Posted 12.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Naomi Firestone

Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.

Dare to Be Your Own Person

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Thinking about what you want is not a selfish act, but it is a fundamental part of knowing yourself. Asking yourself what your principles are doesn't mean casting everyone else aside. In fact, it often means just the opposite.

The 'Roommate' in Your Head

Alex Kip | Posted 09.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Alex Kip

When we think that this inner voice is us, all we're hearing is negative things over and over again on repeat, then suddenly we think we're a worthless person incapable of achieving anything. Not only that, but when this voice runs our life, we're not even living in this world.

4 Things We Must Change to Stop Self-Sabotaging

Lisa Firestone | Posted 09.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.

The Perfect 'Imperfect' Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

I don't believe in soul mates. That doesn't mean I don't believe in true love or the idea that two people can find each other and be truly happy together for the rest of their lives. What I reject, rather, is the belief that there is only one person in the world for us.

Is There a Cure for Narcissism?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we emphasize compassion over esteem and measure our successes in terms of what we give as opposed to what we get, we build a solid sense of self that can leave us feeling less stress and more satisfaction in our lives. We can overcome insecurities and accomplish much more. And when we fall short, we can take a positive and resilient attitude that ensures better outcomes in the future.

One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.

What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Outlook On Life

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

What if we could identify the filter that shapes our perception of the world and change it so as to have a better life?

5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can start challenging ourselves to accept love -- to return a loving look, rather than turning away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part of the equation that limits our capacity for love.

5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When you love yourself, you are better equipped to act with integrity in your relationships. You become a person you respect, and you give your relationship its best chance at survival.

7 Reasons Most People Are Afraid of Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

No matter what the timeline, the story of lost love is one most of us can tell. This leaves the question "why do relationships fail?" to linger heavily in the back of our minds. The answer for many of us can be found within. Whether we know it or not, most of us are afraid of really being in love.

A New Year's Resolution Worth Making

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Setting goals for ourselves is an essential step to a fulfilling life. Yet, New Year's resolutions tend to have a bad rep. Why is this? For one thing,...