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Critical Inner Voice

How Standing Up For Yourself Helps You Fight Depression

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.17.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Depression is the most common mental health disorder in the United States, with nearly one in 10 U.S. adults experiencing some form of it. Depression ...

Rolling in Another's Skates

Sue Shanahan | Posted 08.17.2016 | Religion
Sue Shanahan

Learning to love myself means learning to love others. I've discovered they are both sides of the same coin. To quiet the self-berating voice in my mind, I had to stop finding fault in people.

Can We Change In Our Relationships?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.14.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

"Can a person really change?" This is a question I hear a lot when people are talking about struggles in their relationships. They wonder if their par...

Shut Down the Critical Mom with 5 Simple Truths

Patricia Ribeiro Wolfson | Posted 05.09.2016 | Parents
Patricia Ribeiro Wolfson

You need to give yourself a break. Forgive yourself for all the things that you see as a flaw or a mistake. If you have a rough day, instead of focusing on what you did wrong use this as an opportunity to change how you do things to improve.

How To Tame Your Inner Critic

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.17.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we come to know how this voice is harmfully shaping our present perceptions, emotions and actions, we can learn to regard it as more of an external enemy than our true point of view. There are several steps to this process:

5 Business Mistakes I Made in 2015 and What I Learned From Them

Marcela Macias | Posted 03.14.2016 | Business
Marcela Macias

Have you ever felt like a fraud? Have you ever felt that you weren't (insert adjective of choice) enough to build the business of your dreams? Have you ever sabotaged your own growth?

What's Wrong With Needing to Be the Best

Lisa Firestone | Posted 02.16.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Very few of us are likely to be the "most" or the "best" anything. But success, happiness and a good life aren't really about this. They're about learning to accept ourselves and pursue what has meaning to us. That is the best standard we can hold for ourselves and the most valuable lesson we can pass on to our children.

Just Be Kind: The Only Relationship Advice You'll Ever Need

Lisa Firestone | Posted 02.02.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

You may already be rolling your eyes at the vast oversimplification of this title... and if you were to go back to read the many articles I've written...

A Way Out of Loneliness

Lisa Firestone | Posted 11.09.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Every one of us will experience loneliness in our lifetime. It may hit us when we're single and spending Saturday night on our couch watching reruns or when we're smack at the center of a packed and pulsating party. There is one clear reason for this, and that is that loneliness is not just being alone, it is a perception of seeing ourselves as alone.

The Secret To A Healthy Relationship Is Totally In Your Control

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.15.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we take these steps, we may have thoughts telling us we are a fool, or we will just get hurt. Yet, being vulnerable actually makes us more likely to get what we want. It leads to healthier modes of relating and creates a more compassionate relationship.

7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You Parent

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.30.2016 | Parents
Lisa Firestone

Most parents who look into the eyes of their brand new baby see whatever lies ahead as a clean slate. Nothing turns our focus more toward the future than having a child.

Why We Won't Let Ourselves Be Happy

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.17.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Lisa Firestone

When it comes to our own happiness, many of us are familiar with the pattern of taking two steps forward, one step back. For example, if we want to lo...

Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.11.2016 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

There is nothing wrong with being single. In fact, one of the most important lessons someone can learn is that they can be a whole and happy person on...

Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back?

Debbie Hampton | Posted 05.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Debbie Hampton

After years of self work, I sent my inner critic on an extended vacation and welcomed an inner friend. I shut the witch up and changed my underlying beliefs to be supportive and encouraging of my success and happiness.

Stop Hating Yourself Once and For All

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.05.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

In truth, we don't need studies to tell us that a self-esteem deficit clearly exists in our society. Just talk to any teenager, or small child for that matter, and ask them if there is something that they feel critical of in themselves. The answers are sure to shock you.

How To Find Your Happiness

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Despite what we may believe, quite often, we are not really seeking our own happiness at all. Many of us don't know ourselves well enough to conceptualize what we actually want. We conform to the notions and ideals of our society, our family and other influences that can drown out our own point of view.

How to Not Feel Let Down This Valentine's Day

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Whether it's an enjoyable excuse to go out, an anticipated opportunity to do something over the top or really, truly just another day, Valentine's Day should be what each of us makes of it and nothing more.

How Your Inner Critic Ruins Valentine's Day

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.13.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

It can use occasions like Valentine's Day to heighten your insecurity and to cause you to doubt or question yourself, your partner and your relationship.

Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Most of us treat love like an external force. It's something that happens to us, strikes us like an arrow or overcomes us like a storm. There is a problem with thinking of love this way, and that is that it can slant our focus outward.

The Scientific Approach to Changing Your Life

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Change is rarely linear; there are twists and turns. It's frightening to change, especially when you're going out on limb to go after your own unique goals. In this process, you realize who you really are, separate from society, family or any other outside influences.

3 Steps to Experience the Perfect Imperfect Moment

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Life is too precious to waste it lost in our heads, evaluating ourselves, one step removed from our own experience. We can more fully live our life by paying attention to our senses and being willing to feel what we are actually experiencing at any given moment in time.

Omitting the 'Obnoxious Roommate'

Naomi Firestone | Posted 12.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Naomi Firestone

Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.

Dare to Be Your Own Person

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Thinking about what you want is not a selfish act, but it is a fundamental part of knowing yourself. Asking yourself what your principles are doesn't mean casting everyone else aside. In fact, it often means just the opposite.

The 'Roommate' in Your Head

Alex Kip | Posted 09.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Alex Kip

When we think that this inner voice is us, all we're hearing is negative things over and over again on repeat, then suddenly we think we're a worthless person incapable of achieving anything. Not only that, but when this voice runs our life, we're not even living in this world.

4 Things We Must Change to Stop Self-Sabotaging

Lisa Firestone | Posted 09.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.