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Getting Back in the Game Over 50

D. A. Wolf | Posted 01.07.2017 | Fifty
D. A. Wolf

Looking to get back in the game over 50? The job game or the dating game? When it comes to psyching myself up, dusting off the conversational cobwebs...

When Life Is a Pressure Cooker, Remember the Frog

D. A. Wolf | Posted 06.28.2016 | Healthy Living
D. A. Wolf

This is the story of a frog. But first, allow me to mention an uncharacteristic visit to a travel site where I find myself perusing hotels in far off...

Why Midlife Is Often The Age Of Regret

D. A. Wolf | Posted 06.06.2016 | Fifty
D. A. Wolf

The man in my life begins to rattle off a list of regrets. His jaw is set and resting in his hand, his gaze is fixed somewhere in the distance, and his voice is unusually monotone. I tell myself he's melancholy because of a recent birthday. 50 is tough enough. 60 can be tougher.

The Divorcée Stigma That's Alive and Well

D. A. Wolf | Posted 12.16.2014 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Personally, I'm tired of being sized up, packaged up, or sliced up and diced up - and usually, by other women. I'm tired of being considered a failure because I'm divorced, and whatever the reasons, remain unmarried.

They Call It Commencement; After Divorce, It's Something Else

D. A. Wolf | Posted 07.24.2013 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Our graduation extravaganza took place last week. While there were a few glitches, overall, it was a wonderful couple of days. I shared unforgettable moments with my firstborn son, and have a deepening appreciation for the man in my life.

Changing The Conversation: Why 'Aging Gracefully' Doesn't Suit Me

D. A. Wolf | Posted 05.28.2013 | Fifty
D. A. Wolf

I prefer living gracefully. I prefer admitting openly that I struggle with the emergence of an older woman in the mirror, even as I simultaneously see my youth in reflection, along with dreams dashed and dreams yet to embrace.

Does A Spouse’s Weight Gain Justify Cheating?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 05.17.2013 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

When it comes to the fat wife, we admonish her for letting herself go and we secretly sympathize with the man in the picture. We excuse his nights out, his wandering eye, his slip-slide into infidelity -- and even his claim that weight gain justifies divorce.

Why Bethenny Frankel's Divorce Feels Personal

D. A. Wolf | Posted 03.11.2013 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

When I saw that the Skinnygirl mogul and reality star had filed for divorce, I couldn't even bear to read the details. This one feels personal. I'm trying to come to grips with why.

Why We Tsk-Tsk Single Moms’ Sex Lives

D. A. Wolf | Posted 12.24.2012 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

I was still married at the time, but my girlfriend wasn't. At thirty-something, she was a veritable man magnet -- smart, sassy and gorgeous. She was also divorced with two bright kids, an ex she couldn't abide and a socializing style that gave new meaning to the phrase, "don't get mad, get even."

The Secret To Eradicating Post-Divorce Parenting Guilt

D. A. Wolf | Posted 08.12.2012 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

If single parenthood is a rough road, we're told to put on a brave face and "get over it."

What Gay Marriage Can Teach Us About Divorce

D. A. Wolf | Posted 07.10.2012 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

If I have one concern about gay marriage, it is a concern about marriage itself... It is the possibility that more marriages will be entered into naively, and that means the potential for more divorce.

What Time Apart Did To My Marriage

D. A. Wolf | Posted 05.11.2012 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Sometimes, years pass before we have that lightbulb moment -- noting situations we neither predicted nor imagined -- something like separate vacations or separate activities which, taken to an extreme, may lead to separate lives.

Which is Worse: Losing A Spouse To Divorce Or To Death?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 03.17.2012 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

In death and divorce, we face the palpable destruction of the familiar: the structure of marriage, the family home, and loss of "self" in the role of partner.

Why You Should Be Planning For The Day AFTER The Wedding

D. A. Wolf | Posted 02.12.2012 | Weddings
D. A. Wolf

The wedding is the briefest of opening acts. Marriage is the main event.

The Power of The Butterfly Effect

D. A. Wolf | Posted 01.23.2012 | Women
D. A. Wolf

As you're giving thanks and doing your holiday shopping, consider the Butterfly Effect -- how a small token can change a life -- or save a life.

Is It Cowardly To Stay With A Cheating Spouse?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 01.12.2012 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Perhaps it's time to agree that for some, monogamy is virtually untenable, and long-term committed relationships, particularly in an increasingly narcissistic society, are in trouble.

Are You Entitled To Leave A Sexless Marriage?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 12.15.2011 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Let's talk sex -- sex as marital glue, sex as physical necessity, sex as a reminder that we are alive, no matter how complicated our daily struggles may seem.

When Is The Right Time To Date Again?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 12.12.2011 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Taking a chance and getting back out there may sound like a good idea, but time and timing play pivotal roles.

Would Marital 'Report Cards' Prevent Divorce?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 10.22.2011 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Men and women. Our need for each other. Our obvious differences. Is there anything more fascinating? But when we marry and things go wrong, how many o...

Is Divorce The 'Natural Order Of Things' For Men?

D. A. Wolf | Posted 10.10.2011 | Divorce
D. A. Wolf

Who doesn't remember the 1996 revenge fantasy, "First Wives Club," as Bette Midler, Goldie Hawn, and Diane Keaton cook up an elaborate scheme to make ...