The other day a coworker asked me for my lunch order. At that point my stomach was already beating me to death, and I was ready to trade my firstborn child for a ham sandwich. I asked him where we were ordering from, and he said, "Chick-fil-A. Mmmmm!" I was torn.
I am thrilled with the great strides forward that the Supreme Court has helped the gay and lesbian community achieve. But I feel as if Brian and I are on a different boat. Others are partying onshore, and the party looks fabulous, darling, but we are waiting for our boat to take us to shore.
If the Boy Scouts decide to shed their national requirement to exclude gays, there will not necessarily be a sudden, massive change-of-heart within the ranks. What will matter is that fewer members will be rejected for being who they are.
Here on The Huffington Post, Shane Windmeyer wrote a piece about becoming friends with Dan Cathy, the president and COO of Chick-fil-A. I was going to respond in the comments section, but I quickly realized that I had lots more than 250 words to say.
Campus Pride executive director Shane Windmeyer has issued the all-clear on behalf of Chick-fil-A, writing that he has seen tax forms proving that Chick-fil-A is no longer giving to the "most divisive" anti-gay groups. Nevertheless, there are enormous questions that arise.
I spent New Year's Eve at the red-blooded, all-American epicenter of college football: at the Chick-fil-A Bowl, next to Dan Cathy, as his personal guest. It was among the most unexpected moments of my life.
This company is simply not going to be able to control its image as long as it remains a rallying cry of hate groups and homophobes. I suppose that Chick-fil-A could defiantly stand firm and remain the right's anti-gay Alamo, but I'm sure they are well aware of that fort's fate.
Reactions to the financing of anti-gay groups by Chick-fil-A owner Dan Cathy included ill-considered behavior by some on the pro-LGBT side that played into the hands of our opponents, who are always looking for excuses to portray themselves as victims.
For the gay football player or coach in Atlanta this Labor Day weekend, the words of Cathy, diminishing him to second-class citizenship, will be ringing in his ear. On that day, he will become a walking billboard for a symbol of his own oppression.
Boycotting is supposed to be a private matter of ostracizing a person or group. Normally, participating in a boycott is a decision by an individual to join others in a protest movement to abstain from patronizing or supporting another person, group or business.
I think it's great that Dan Cathy has so proudly come out against marriage equality. Cathy was far more dangerous to equality when on the down-low. Now, even non-LGBT people have to think about where their lunch bucks actually stop.
Dear Chick-Fil-A: It's not that I don't love you, we both know that's not true. I know I'll never find another like you. But baby, we are growing in two different directions. I'm afraid I won't be able to see you anymore.