For many who suffer a traumatic event the date of that event becomes the defining moment of their lives. That event and its aftermath have taken over and everything else is relegated to the rear -- life's priorities quickly rearranged themselves.
In Washington, D.C., women often complain about the lack of available men. On the other hand, San Jose has earned the moniker "Man Jose" for having too few available women for the men of Silicon Valley. But is it fact or fiction?
I've occasionally had to try not to laugh when a well-meaning spirit gives dating advice to someone here who is being overly critical and picky -- they say they want to find love but they're too busy finding fault.
I don't know the first thing about choosing the right guy. I'm great at giving advice -- I advise my friends like it's my job. So why can't I ever get it together for myself? I wouldn't say I pick bad guys necessarily; I tend to pick guys who are needy.
Mention Palm Springs and the Coachella Valley and most tourists think golf, Rat Pack and, if they're music fans, the Coachella Fest. What doesn't spring to mind is agriculture, particularly not the husbandry of dates.
My friend, "Cathy" is very aware of my love of books and my passion for helping people make connections. She knew I would enjoy her tale about a recent trip to her local Borders on a Saturday night and I am sure you will also.