The message is one of hope. Social anxiety can be debilitating, isolating and lonely. But it doesn't have to be that way. With treatment, practice and a willingness to try new behaviors, dating anxiety can be overcome.
Whether or not there is such a thing as fate or soul mates, I'm not sure I'll ever know. But at the end of the day, I haven't given up hope. Maybe that makes me fearless, maybe it makes me a fool. But it's what gets me out of bed each morning.
When you are in the "but I love them" space, the main emotion you are using is not actually love but fear: fear of being alone, fear of walking away from something you worked so hard on, fear of having to try to find love again and not finding it.