Everyone has a past, and that means past loves. If you are over 30 and/or divorced, you have probably had your heart broken, and so has the person you are dating. But what does that mean for your new, budding, happy, "perfect" relationship?
There are many reasons men and women have an interest in dating. They range from just wanting to have fun, the desire to meet interesting people, the need or want for sex, or the biggie: the hope of falling in love.
Where can you meet single men and women? I'm actually going to take bars out of this post, A. because the latest reader who asked me where to meet someone said "I'm not a fan of meeting men in bars," and B. Because I'm not either.
These tenets work for me, but it's important for each one of us to find our own bespoke rules, guidelines, deal breakers, and tweak them as we grow. Life is dynamic -- it has to be in order for it to evolve.
Do I trust he will never cheat on me? Do I trust him to co-mingle my finances with him? Do I trust him with my children/future children? Do I trust his judgment, his loyalty, his friendship, his love for me?
Now that I've accepted the fact that age doesn't matter all that much after 40 in terms of who one hooks up with, I've been getting in shape for that inevitable moment when someone walks into my life who is five, 10, even 15 years younger than me.
You said it loud and said it proud! Your single status is not a defect. Looking for love online does not mean you are desperate. I happen to know it means the opposite: You are confident, smart and savvy.
It's been a while since I've been on a date -- I've been busy with my books and meeting deadlines. And I tend to get hermetic. Anyway, I'm trying to get out more, even date. So Dick Slick, alias "God," picks me up in his black shiny Lexus, and he's as spiffy as his car.
I have heard it said that a woman over 40 has a better chance of being killed by terrorists than she does of finding a husband. I don't buy it. I've seen too many examples of older couples finding true love.