Falling in love can sometimes have consequences if you aren't careful. Falling in love can cause people to do stupid things; things that can have really bad outcomes, simply because they were so blinded by their powerful feelings that they didn't realize the mistake they were making.
Is it odd and unconventional and hard to explain to new people who enter MY life, yes it is. However; I wouldn't change any of it. To see my daughter smile, to see my friend happy and to see my ex find the love he deserves makes me happy.
The concept of "the one" seems as antiquated as chaperones and dance cards. So, what happens when you meet someone that makes you challenge that belief; someone who makes you wonder if all the romantic notions that your friends have been spewing might be true after all?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with me passing along a compliment to a woman in front of her children, or mine. But I overthought things, and I shouldn't have. Somehow society has convinced me that when I have my daughters, women are off-limits.
They're as honest as they can be. If they're going to choose time with you over Netflix and a beer on the couch with their dog, it's because they either think you have a future together or they really want to have sex with you. And they'll be honest about which one it is.
I think what a lot of people forget when it comes to dating after divorce is, The Brady Bunch was a fictitious sitcom with two widows who found true love and a perfect life blending their families. Newsflash: The Brady Bunch is not a reality show!
Personally, I'm tired of being sized up, packaged up, or sliced up and diced up - and usually, by other women. I'm tired of being considered a failure because I'm divorced, and whatever the reasons, remain unmarried.
What I've learned is to focus on what's in front of you: love for your child, balance of work and play, and a fierce pursuit of that which gives you peace of mind. If you insist on these things, and your lover agrees, then you can make your way forward together.