That's really scary, I said to Heather, my 46-year-old trainer. I don't want to do this. Heather insisted, it was not about a new set of exercises that she was promoting, it was for me to get online on a dating site.
Last time I saw her, nearly 10 months ago, she was bursting at the seams with joy. After surviving an ugly divorce, and slugging through the ups and down of the dating pool, she had finally met "Mr. Wonderful."
When it comes to dating, more women like to emulate the celebrities that shine on the red carpet to try to get the guy.
We are all scared shi*less in this dating after divorce world, let's be honest. Yet, there's no better feeling than knowing there's a potential to meet someone who will truly make you feel loved and happy.
The amount of access we're unknowingly granting to the seemingly innocent sites we visit on a daily basis is getting more and more invasive with no end in sight. How do we shield ourselves from this invisible line we didn't even know existed?
"We're just going on dates, texting incessantly, and relying on one another for comfort and emotional support," said Dash. "Why try to define that?"
Never seek approval, as in "I want to go out with you, I hope you like me." Whether your first or fifth, the date is much more likely to be successful when you are true to who you are and not seeking approval from others.
Smarts, a sense of humor, a good heart and a willingness to go through the rough parts of life are the relationships that are able to withstand the very many unsexy moments of real life. And the knowledge that great relationships take work. The good kind of work. The rewarding kind.
Breaking off a relationship is a giant suck sandwich with a nightmare filling of pain, guilt, fear, rejection, remorse, pity and self-loathing.
In my dating experiences as a Queer Cripple, any time I have been rejected, I have never really been given one of the safe stock answers, but instead I have been hit with a barrage of honesty -- typically, a direct result of my crippledness.
We all look at failure, be it in love or business, as a negative thing. But if we turn the glass around and look at it from another perspective, all these failures are essential and are the springboard to the success we have today.
The next time you're in a coffee shop, don't overlook that 70-year-old sitting in the corner reading Dickens, Hemmingway, or maybe even a copy of The Transhumanist Wager. That senior citizen with their years of wisdom and experience might soon be fair game for a love interest.
In relationships, I prefer to be younger and cuter than my mate. Even just a year or two his junior somehow feels more comfortable, as illogical and sexist as that is. But it is. Because youth and its wingman -- beauty -- have power of their own, no matter how fleeting.
How many times has he told you he loved you, but then the outcome doesn't reflect the true love he continues to profess? There are two scenarios in which this happens. Before I dive deep to explain, the lesson is pretty simple: He's not good enough for YOU.
In our culture, men historically have been trained and expected to be aggressive, competitive and hierarchical. Male self-worth has been based on embodying those qualities and on being a successful breadwinner
I've had some very good people pass through my life. Their names won't be important to you, but the part they played when they were with me is something worth sharing.