Does having an affair lead you to make bad decisions across the board? Does it impact your ability to lead, manage or govern, or just your ability to stick to your marital vows? And if it doesn't impact your ability to lead, manage or govern, why would you have to resign or be ousted?
Civil libertarians and others who rose to defend President Clinton in 1998 when his affair with a White House intern was disclosed, and led to his impeachment, have been silent with the Petraeus news.
Zero energy goes into the investigation of actual rape in the military, except in rare circumstances. The military's domination culture, personified by Patton, is constructed on the illusion of granite-etched moral values -- "we protect our loved ones" -- and powered by a belief in its own righteousness.
We can't have it both ways, ladies; we can't demand the "right to party" along with the boys then expect to be treated with kid gloves when we're caught with our pants down too, any more than Clinton, Weiner, Spitzer or Petraeus could. Paula Broadwell is no Monica Lewinsky.
The bottom line is this is a man who is very good at what he does professionally, and we need him. It's a major loss for our country. Cheating on your spouse is never a good idea, but what does that have to do with Petraeus' ability to run the CIA?
"Never have an affair with anyone who has less to lose than you do." That should cover hookers who don't play golf when you are the Greatest Golfer who ever lived. It should reverberate in the halls of Congress when congressmen are contemplating another kind of congress. But it doesn't.
The fact that Gen. Petraeus's biographer needed a "ghost-writer" speaks volumes about her lack of qualifications for the task at hand -- save for the fact that Gen. Petraeus could be absolutely certain that every word would be favorable, if not worshipful.
Let's just be honest here -- General Petraeus, his former mistress, Paula Broadwell, and even his jovial wife, Holly, along with the rest of us, are forcing ourselves into a box we don't naturally fit into.
In a way, I'm glad that David Petraeus's sex scandal is playing out across the pages and television screens of the mass media. Because one of the alternative ways it could have been handled is so much worse.
Pathological narcissistic leaders are difficult to understand because we are unable to see their life and death struggle. Both we the public and the people responsible for appointing our leaders do not see the bigger picture.
"You are talking about a massively invasive investigation that without any of their knowledge obtained their most intimate communications, all without evidence of any predicate crime," says Guardian columnist Glenn Greenwald on Democracy Now!
Sex brought him down. Not a stray bullet, not a landmine, not a grenade nor a terrorist.
While nothing is going to keep your online activities completely private -- especially if law enforcement has sufficient reason to search your online files -- here are some tips that are a big step in keeping your files, emails and chats as private as possible.
General Petraeus played a key role in decisions to carry out controversial drone strikes, including the attacks last year that killed two U.S. citizens. But no, it was adultery that brought down Petraeus.