When tragedy strikes it is our natural spirit to want to do something to manage our own feelings of helplessness and compassion. But perhaps in addition to what we do we need to focus on what we don't do as well.
I feel unsatisfied. I don't feel soothed. Perhaps the problem is that I don't want to be soothed? Perhaps the idea that I might feel better tomorrow or the next day frightens me because I suspect that being soothed may simply lay the groundwork for another "shocking" attack.
Finding the courage to move forward and continue to live after a tragedy is extremely difficult -- it's one of the hardest things I've ever done. For anyone who has been through a tragic event, I wanted to share some advice.