"I want to get it done, I just don't seem to get 'round to it." So said a client who told me that her last will and testament, which needed updating, had been sitting in her inbox for four years.
Jesus' death reminds us that, while death is dreadful and a real ground for fear, there are worse things than death. Turning away from a life of meaning, mission and vision, or seeking to prolong life with so much zeal that the life one lives becomes a torment, would all be examples of that.
Jane took living -- and dying -- seriously, and with humor. Her husband said, "She had a whole file on dying..." Two weeks before she took her last breath, Jane insisted that I read Being Mortal by Atul Gawande so I would know how she wanted to go.
Long ago I adjusted to life without a mother. For most of the last 30 years, the majority of my friends' mothers were living and most still are. Being motherless set me apart, especially in my twenties and thirties. I occasionally have met individuals who also lost their mothers in early adulthood.
One decision can change the entire course of your life and in turn all the lives around you. Time is relentless. It will stampede over you if you stand still. We were born 10 months apart; now I am a whole 10 years older.
Unless we're unfortunate enough to be the first in our crowd to go, someday we all take the sad trip I recently made to say so long to a childhood pal.
All we can do is openly and honestly talk our children and model for them good behavior, positive thoughts, and authentic feelings. We will grow and learn together. And, if we can arm them with all of the right information, they might just be able to teach their own kids a thing or two one day.
Someone I love lost everything a few months ago. A middle of the night house fire. A narrow escape. A home in ashes. My brother is making an invent...
In early 2009, living my life with some redundancy and lack of purpose, I found myself suddenly searching for the rug that had been pulled from under ...
Those of us who long for a similar breakthrough in the end-of-life movement would be wise to study this history and the "lessons learned" from decades of struggle for a humane, respectful and dignified approach to the special event of birth.
When people you care about are in pain, think about the spectrum of emotion. Even as you may lovingly try to shift focus to the positive, let them know that you honor everything they are feeling, and that your actions do not imply that feeling good is inherently better or that their emotions are in any way wrong. Meet them where they are.
My attempt to find the true lesson behind his passing Sometimes, you just have to think real hard. Put all the pain aside and find the purpose behi...
Most of us live our lives as if we will be alive tomorrow, and for many years to come. Of course, that's not always the reality and at some point - ho...
We all curate our personal brand on social media platforms now. As authentic as I proclaim to be, I admit that there is definitely some curating goi...
With loss comes grief, and when this hits, people often turn to their religious beliefs to help them cope with it. For these people, loved ones aren't really dead, but are living in a better place. For those who lack religious belief, however, such comforting thoughts are not available.
By creating an end-of-life book club in your community you will help others set off on a year-long exploration of the most important subject of life: how we bring to a close our final days. When have thoroughly examined this "fragile thought" of death then we can choose to live fully in each and every moment available to us.
Death will not escape us, any of us. Though it seems that death has a fond proclivity for me, it has followed me throughout my life thus far. Case-in-point, I started writing this from a room in a hospice center, watching as my father-in-law took some of what were his last breaths.
Now, more than ever before, there are opportunities for forming relationships with like-minded individuals. So let's look at some specific ways to find support and build a network around you that can sustain you through the challenges of sacred end-of-life work:
See if this sounds familiar...you wake up exhausted already. Your feet hit the floor and the day begins: barking at the kids to get ready for school, ...
What impressed me about both books was how different they were -- yet universal to the human experience. Who isn't different in some way? In my view, anyone who says they are the same as everyone else is either lying, extremely boring or both.